(Closed) Why do people care so much about other peoples' diamond size?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Newbee

My friend told me maybe I would lose my ring so I could use the insurance money to buy a bigger one. I have a nice quality one carat (as does she??!!). I was so hurt. 

Post # 33
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345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Oh god, these clueless people just “ick” me out, lol. I don’t get how someone thinks it’s OK to just belittle someone else by giving their unsolicited negative opinion? Your ring is absolutely beautiful and what matters is the love it represents. 

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

underblueskies1016 : I’ve gotta say, it’s just who you know.  I have a 3-stone ring with the largest (a gemstone) being about 3 mm across.  No one has ever, ever said anything about the size of my stones, whether I knew who they were or not.  I’m always pretty surprised by this type of thread b/c I can’t imagine so many people being so assholish without realizing it. 

Your ring, btw, is gorgeous. I prefer smaller stones and I’ve always liked solitaires.  That little twist gives it all it needs to be perfect.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I find it mildly amusing in an icky kind of way when people are hung up on carat size and on color and clarity details. I could say all kinds of negative things about overly large rings, but I’m not trying to offend anyone. And color and clarity can’t even be seen with the naked eye unless is really really bad. Your ring is beautiful and it’s not there to impress anyone else, it’s there for you and your fiance.

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2006

Well for starters your ring does not look small, it actually looks perfect in proportion to your finger. Secondly it’s amazingly beautiful on you and it looks classy and elegant. People are jerks and something similar happened to me. My husband got me EXACTLY what I wanted, he literally nailed everything I wanted in a ring. We met up with one of his dad’s friends who he really loved and admired and all he had to say was “wow man, is that all you could do?” And it sent my husband into total discontent and doubt about what he chose for me. Ever since that day over 10 years ago he always felt he needed to get me something bigger and “better”. So sad!! Especially when I had exactly what I wanted!

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

underblueskies1016 :  First of all, your ring is beautiful! Secondly, your colleagues are out of bound for making comments about your ring size. How rude and tacky of them! I wouldn’t give their petty comments a second thought. Enjoy your ring and your husband-to-be! 🙂

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2006

amylou2016 :  wow! That is so insane! And incredibly rude!

Post # 39
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658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

My ring certainly isn’t to everyone’s taste, but who cares? Besides, anything too big is kind of impractical for me. I wouldn’t want such a large ring that I’m always afraid to wear it. Heck, sometimes I’m more self conscious and uncomfortable wearing my less expensive 1.5 carat moissanite than I am my more expensive .5 carat (center stone) diamond wedding set. 

Post # 40
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

underblueskies1016 :  

OK first of all, that is a beautiful diamond ;w; Like, it is absolutely beautiful! And it is the perfect size for your finger!

Next, I completely agree- it totally is not fair that others are so… judgmental. It is not fair at all that someone should be able to judge you- as long as you love the ring, that’s all that matters. 😉 They’re just judgmental.

I know how you feel, though- my fiance bought me moissanite (which is exactly what I wanted). Money was tight at the time, but this is absolute perfect and I picked it out. He wanted to buy me a diamond, but, why, when you could get the same size, flawless moissanite for 1/2 the price, in my opinion? I’d rather have new flooring or something for the house, with the money we saved. But as soon as you tell someone it’s moissanite, “OH It’s not a real diamond? :/” or “I mean it looks good, but…” or “Well, it’s not a real engagement ring, then?” and it gets so annoying! But, it’s whatever 🙂 I love my ring, so I literally don’t care at all what they say! 

Post # 41
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Wow- those comments would annoy me.

Your ring is absolutely beautiful!

Post # 42
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431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

underblueskies1016 :  Your ring is amazingly gorgeous!!!! I hate people who have the nerve to ask such stupid questions. I understand everyone has an opinion but they also need to keep quiet. 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee

No one have ever said anything like that to me about any of my jewellery. That’s extremely rude. Where I am people don’t care

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

underblueskies1016 :  Please know that most people finance their engagement rings, which means they can’t really afford them anyways.  I wouldn’t worry about what people say.  There are millionaires walking around with plain gold bands and people making $35k a year combined with 2 carat rocks.  It means literally nothing about wealth, love, or importance.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That is a stunning ring!! Congratulations!! I am getting very bored of sizeism (is that even a word lol) making people feel insecure about their rings. It just makes the people making the comments look really uneducated and classless.

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