Post # 46
Angelfire7: When I was single, I wouldn’t say I “hated” Valentine’s Day. It was more like it made me feel miserable because it reminded me I had nobody and this one particular day of the year made it even more magnified I guess. Before I met SO, I was single on Valentine’s Day 4 years in a row.
Post # 48
Maybe they feel it’s to commercial. I for one love it. My parents celebrate bit every year without fail. Why?? Because they cannot afford to spend so much money on each other. So Valentine’s day is a great day for them to “splurge” a little. My mom works all the time and is very ill so it’s nice to know.that she is getting all dolled up. same with my dad. They pay alot of medical bills.so it’s nice that they have a day, besides they’re anniversary to celebrate their love. I think Valentine’s is beautiful
Post # 49
Angelfire7: People hate it because of the massive expectations that have been attached to the holiday. There’s pressure for proposals, this, that, and hearing abou that and being single is kind of not fun. Thanksgiving is about thanks. Everyone can be in a position to give thanks regardless of situation. Valentines day is about romantic feelings and attachments. This isn’t shared by everyone because not everyone is partnered.
Try to be a little more empathic when making statements like this.
Post # 50
Angelfire7: “Most people hate it because they it is so commercialized and we don’t need a day to show love and that love should be shown every day. Yes, the latter is true but how is this any different than Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Thanksgivings, Christmas? Those have becomes heavily commercialized yet you don’t see anyone becoming a negative nancy about that!”
Really? You don’t see anyone negative about thanksgiving or Christmas? That must be a rare experience, I would think most people know at least someone that hates Christmas.
Valentine’s Day stirs basically nothing inside me & never has. This year is the first time I can remember celebrating it (not that I haven’t before, but I don’t recall it anymore if I did). We celebrated it because it happened to fall on a Sunday and it was just good timing for us to have a special dinner at home. I cooked something extra indulgent and we shared a bottle of sparkling rosè. Took the extra minute to turn music on, light candles and have a nice peaceful, pleasurable dinner. We were just more present in the moment than we are at the typical weekday dinner time. If it hadn’t been for Valentine’s Day we very well might have spent that Sunday night tackling some project or fulfilling other family obligations, etc. So I really enjoyed celebrating it this year.
I can very much understand recently single, widowed or lonely people in general having a hard time with Valentine’s Day and I sympathize with anyone in such positions feeling lousy at that time of year. I feel pretty fortunate to get to spend time with someone I love and loves me too, and Valentine’s Day is a reminder of that for everyone. Some are reminded that they are alone, some are reminded that they happily paired up.
Christmas though…..I HATE Christmas. It makes me want to stage my own death to get out of the whole maddening spectacle! Christmastime is just insanity, I despise it. Now I guess you *know* someone that’s negative towards another holiday other than V day 😉