(Closed) Why do people get offended if they say their moissanite is a diamond? DEBATE!!!!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Sugar bee

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Spiritway11:  You read my mind. This was started to get people pissed. 

Post # 47
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Busy bee

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JordanG:  they can be. In one thread from a couple years ago a poster said she was offended by them and the rings were deceitful.

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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RayKay:  I think you missed the point of my post entirely and made it to be personal to you. Let me give you examples:

 

A) You have 1 carat moissy and someone asks “woah that is gorg, is it a diamond?”

– Respectful reaction – “No, its a moissy”.

– GTFO reaction – “Yep, it is a diamond. He did such a good job! *fake blush*”.

B) You have implants in your breasts (no matter the reason) and someone asks you if they are real (Of course it is different cuz you dont have stranger asking questions like that but let’s pretend it is a new close friend or something like that).

– Respectful reaction – “I had plastic surgery, but I am incredibly proud of how natural they made them look”.

– GTFO reaction – “All natural baby, gotta thank mom for good genes”.

 

Tldr; If you straight up lie in someones face about something you own, that means you are actually embarassed about it. You shouldn’t lie when asked. Although you do not have to get a tattoo on your forehead that say “I HAVE MOISSY”. Let people wonder and admire from a far but if they ask you, it is really “Ugh” to lie to them.

Post # 49
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Honey Beekeeper

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sylwia212:   Except the person doing the asking in both cases is overstepping. They are not owed any reply at all because it’s none of their business. Diamond or moissanite, implants or natural, IMO the best response is “why would you ask me that?” 

Post # 51
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

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sylwia212:  Yup, I made it personal because the point is it IS personal. The reasons someone can have surgery are complicated, and can be very emotional. I am at peace with MY body, but I am friends who have had the same surgery who have a lot of pain, fear, sadness, and loss around the decision and frankly, don’t want people to know their medical history. So yeah, if they are asked why should they divulge that? When my breasts were real, I would not have been like “thanks, they are real!” either.

Like I said, I have only ever had one person ask if something was a diamond. Once. That was for a moissanite and I said it was not as I don’t care, but I think the question was inappropriate in the first place. Most people are respectful enough to make a compliment – like “that is a pretty ring”, and I don’t see why anyone has to volunteer. It would be just as weird to say “thanks! It is a diamond!” when I was wearing one of my diamond rings to me as “thanks, it’s a moissanite” when I was wearing a moissanite one.

So yeah, I made it personal because IT IS. It is rude for anyone to ask in the first place!

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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weddingmaven:  I wont argue that. But people tend to be curious. If you want to go the “why would you ask me that” route, you can 150% and I support that. Probably best way anyway haha.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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RayKay:  You are still missing the point but I wont argue with you. Glad your surgery went well, and I agree that asking about breast is WAY overstepping it. I just used it as an example. Either way, have a nice day 🙂

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

TRUE STORY,years ago I knew a guy that made cars. But he was trying to start sonething new, which was to have a car with the body of a Ferrari (exact look/replica) but all the insides of a Toyota (engine/motor/etc) 

well he didn’t get very far cause no one was interested in buying his cars. 

Now, some mentioned “snobbery” but let’s really look at it. Had some guy bought one of his cars, is the problem with the replica car buyer, or all the real Ferrari drivers? I think it’s the replica car buyer. Why does he feel the need to drive a car with a copied body so people can think he’s rolling around in a Ferrari? Who is he trying to impress? Clearly he has a confidence issue, low self esteem, and an ego to feed. Why can’t he just drive a Toyota and be proud of it. It still gets him from point A to B. Why deceive people by faking his status. (Please, I am NOT saying moissy girls have the confidence issues stated above!!)

and maybe it is unfair to the real Ferrari drivers. That they worked so hard for many years to save up for their dream car, and yet their neighbour is pretending to have accomplished the same thing. 

if I save up my money for so long and sacrifice going out, eating at resto’s with friends and blowing money left and right to buy myself a new designer handbag, and then my friend goes and buys the same one but fake from China. It might frustrate me a bit cause of the sacrifices I made and the zero effort she had to make. But…. not enough to start a debate. Or judge. Or get defensive. Because in the end we should be buying things to make US happy, and not to impress others. 

if people want to lie about what they have, it doesn’t bother me. But the same way you don’t understand what the harm is in lying about having a moissy, I don’t understand what the harm is in admitting it’s a Moissy…. 

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

People care because it’s a lie. I don’t know a single person that enjoys being lied to.  Your friend is the one with the problem since she’s not secure enough in her decision to be honest, the people irritated by the lie aren’t the ones with a problem. 

Post # 56
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Okay you guys, it’s time.  We really don’t need to continue this conversation. You all know it won’t end well.  Closing this thread now.  Thanks everyone!

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