MemberIf you’ve had or are having a grooms cake can you please help me out here, I’m really not clear on what the groom’s cake is for? I thought the wedding cake was for both the bride and groom, so why is there a separate grooms cake? I’ve never actually been to a wedding that had this, but I’ve seen alot of pictures of it and I’m quite confused by it.
MemberI know it’s a tradition in the South, so that’s why a lot of people have it. I’m considering getting one for Fiance because he really, really wants a cake shaped like a Tardis (off of a British sci-fi show), and it sure as heck isn’t going to be our wedding cake.
I agree with you that the main cake is for both the bride and groom, but sometimes I think there are extra-special circumstances where the groom just really wants something? I always thought they were silly until Fiance brought up the Tardis cake so I’m not sure that I have a good explanation for it…
MemberThe one time I’ve seen a grooms cake at a wedding was at the rehearsal dinner.
I actually thought it was pretty cool (and VERY tasty). The cake was shaped like a beer keg (not totally wedding appropriate) but it was very cute for the rehearsal dinner setting.
MemberIt’s a Southern thing [see: Steel Magnolias]
I don’t know. It’a a cute idea, but another expense and it seems like a waste of food to me.
MemberWe had one because where DH is from the traditional wedding cake is fruitcake and I was not going for fruitcake as the wedding cake so my mom (who makes a kick butt fruitcake) made one for him and had it decorated with a symbol from his job. It was simple but personal and he got to have his own special cake. I have no idea what happened to either the wedding cake or the groom’s cake – I hope it all got eaten!
MemberI’ve never been to a wedding without one. I was surprised to find out that it was a southern tradition because I thought that was the norm (then again, I am from to south).
The grooms cake can be used as a way to show the groom’s personality. Plus, since the wedding cake is usually white, the groom’s cake can serve as a different option (chocolate). I usually see german chocolate groom’s cakes with chocolate covered strawberries on top.
MemberIt is definitely a southern thing. It is a chance for the groom to express himself on his big day.
MemberWe had one. DH is a die hard OSU fan, so I got a grooms cake made in the shape of the stadium as a fun surprise. We first learned about them when we moved to the south (where we met) and every wedding we went to had one. He really appreciated it and his friends LOVED it. Plus it was a Funfetti cake, so he got his favorite cake flavor on the wedding day =o)
MemberAh, I had no idea that the groom’s cake was a southern tradition either before reading this! Makes sense, as the only wedding I’ve been to that had one was in GA. At that particular wedding, I got part of the groom’s cake rather than the actual wedding cake, and it was tastier!
MemberI didn’t know it was a southern tradition either, but the wedding I went to that had one was in NC.
MemberOh ok thanks for the responses, atleast I know more about it now than I did 10 minutes ago.
MemberI agree with most, I don’t really see the need for a groom cake. I guess if the groom makes an issue of it, then it could be justified. Other than that, I see it as just another wedding expense.
FH will have “yours truly” and that “betta” be all the cake he needs! LOL 
MemberI’m planning on surprising Fiance with a grooms came and we are from New York. The wedding cake will be well… Weddingy so I wanted to have something for him that showed off his personality.
MemberGrooms cakes are still a complete mystery to me.
My partner thinks it’s so that there is more cake & flavour variety.
A lot reference it as a southern tradition, but why? where exactly does it come from? I’m all for moist, delicious cakey-goodness but this just leaves me confused most days.
MemberI think they’re not necessary, but some of them are a lot of fun. Definitely not for us, though – my groom hates cake (and is having a lot of say in other wedding elements). But I can see the appeal – they’re nifty.
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