(Closed) Why do people have a grooms cake?

posted 9 years ago in Food
  • poll: Are you having a grooms cake
    Yes : (64 votes)
    39 %
    No : (79 votes)
    48 %
    Undecided : (22 votes)
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  • Post # 3
    6392 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I know it’s a tradition in the South, so that’s why a lot of people have it. I’m considering getting one for Fiance because he really, really wants a cake shaped like a Tardis (off of a British sci-fi show), and it sure as heck isn’t going to be our wedding cake.

    I agree with you that the main cake is for both the bride and groom, but sometimes I think there are extra-special circumstances where the groom just really wants something? I always thought they were silly until Fiance brought up the Tardis cake so I’m not sure that I have a good explanation for it…

    Post # 4
    8736 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    The one time I’ve seen a grooms cake at a wedding was at the rehearsal dinner.

    I actually thought it was pretty cool (and VERY tasty). The cake was shaped like a beer keg (not totally wedding appropriate) but it was very cute for the rehearsal dinner setting.

    Post # 5
    7299 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It’s a Southern thing [see: Steel Magnolias]

    I don’t know. It’a a cute idea, but another expense and it seems like a waste of food to me.

    Post # 6
    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We had one because where Darling Husband is from the traditional wedding cake is fruitcake and I was not going for fruitcake as the wedding cake so my mom (who makes a kick butt fruitcake) made one for him and had it decorated with a symbol from his job.  It was simple but personal and he got to have his own special cake.  I have no idea what happened to either the wedding cake or the groom’s cake – I hope it all got eaten!

    Post # 7
    5385 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’ve never been to a wedding without one. I was surprised to find out that it was a southern tradition because I thought that was the norm (then again, I am from to south).

    The grooms cake can be used as a way to show the groom’s personality. Plus, since the wedding cake is usually white, the groom’s cake can serve as a different option (chocolate). I usually see german chocolate groom’s cakes with chocolate covered strawberries on top.

    Post # 8
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It is definitely a southern thing. It is a chance for the groom to express himself on his big day.

    Post # 9
    2207 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We had one.  Darling Husband is a die hard OSU fan, so I got a grooms cake made in the shape of the stadium as a fun surprise.  We first learned about them when we moved to the south (where we met) and every wedding we went to had one. He really appreciated it and his friends LOVED it.  Plus it was a Funfetti cake, so he got his favorite cake flavor on the wedding day =o)

    Post # 10
    459 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Ah, I had no idea that the groom’s cake was a southern tradition either before reading this! Makes sense, as the only wedding I’ve been to that had one was in GA. At that particular wedding, I got part of the groom’s cake rather than the actual wedding cake, and it was tastier!

    Post # 11
    8736 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I didn’t know it was a southern tradition either, but the wedding I went to that had one was in NC.

    Post # 13
    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I agree with most, I don’t really see the need for a groom cake. I guess if the groom makes an issue of it, then it could be justified. Other than that, I see it as just another wedding expense.

    FH will have “yours truly” and that “betta” be all the cake he needs! LOL Kiss


    Post # 14
    10285 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m planning on surprising Fiance with a grooms came and we are from New York. The wedding cake will be well… Weddingy so I wanted to have something for him that showed off his personality.

    Post # 15
    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Grooms cakes are still a complete mystery to me.

    My partner thinks it’s so that there is more cake & flavour variety.


    A lot reference it as a southern tradition, but why? where exactly does it come from? I’m all for moist, delicious cakey-goodness but this just leaves me confused most days.

    Post # 16
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think they’re not necessary, but some of them are a lot of fun.  Definitely not for us, though – my groom hates cake (and is having a lot of say in other wedding elements).  But I can see the appeal – they’re nifty.

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