(Closed) Why do people have a grooms cake?

posted 11 years ago in Food
  • poll: Are you having a grooms cake




  • Post # 17
    509 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’ve been to a couple weddings with them.

    We’re going to have one as a way to actually save money. Wedding cakes are horrendously expensive, but sheet cakes are very cheap in comparison. We’re going to have a small, simple 2-3 tier traditional wedding cake and a large sheet cake decorated with one of Fiance favorite things. I’m undecided if that will be Superman, Batman, Star Trek or the Montreal Canadiens. To make it even more in our budget we’re going to pay for the cake using grocery gift cards I’ve gotten from collecting airmiles.

    Whatever I end up choosing as the theme of the grooms cake I’ll also be making a garter to match and buying him a wedding day gift of cufflinks in the same theme.

    Post # 18
    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think groomscakes are so the groom can express himself ( like many other people have said).  Traditionally the groom doesnt have much of an opinion during the planning process. If it were up to my Fiance, we would have a cardinals themed wedding with a batting cage and wiffle ball tournament in the back.  Obviously -that will never happen.  However, a groomscake at least gives people an idea of what he is interested in ( since it obviously isnt the pink decor and flowers all over the place) 🙂

    We are not doing a groomscake – we are having a 3 tier small cake, 75 cupcakes, AND a s’mores bar so… i think people will get enough sweets.

    Post # 19
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010


    It was something that DH really looked forward to, and I was happy to oblige. I think in some ways it’s a clear way for the groom to have a distinct “him” part in a day that can often focus on the bride 

    Post # 20
    711 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I did a grooms cake but at the rehearsal dinner. It was a fun way to have dessert at the rehearsal and it was a surprise for my husband. Although he actually did pick out everything for our wedding cake so when you think about it he kind of got two cakes -0 but he did a really good job on the wedding cake.

    I think Grooms cakes are fun!

    Post # 21
    4410 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

    I believe it is a way for the groom to get a bit of his personality into the mix. How many men do you know who choose all the feminine romantic touches that usually go hand in hand with a wedding and reception?

    The groom usually goes along with whatever the bride wants. I mean, if Jim were planning our wedding, our colors would probably be blue and maize, University of Michigan’s colors, and the cake would have have a huge maize colored “M” on it with absolutely no flowers.

    A groom’s cake allows his special quirks and tastes to be shared with the guests too, without taking away from the “feel” the bride was trying to achieve. 

    Post # 22
    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Lol, why? Because you doesn’t want more cake! Haha, also it’s so traditional where I’m from, I didn’t even realize people *didn’t* have groom’s cakes until I joined weddingbee! But mainly, it’s just fun!

    Post # 23
    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Oh, and as for the added wedding expense–the groom’s family traditionally pays for the wedding cake, so it’s not extra where I’m from! =)

    Post # 24
    597 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Mine will not be for the wedding, but it will be the dessert at the rehearsal dinner. I am super super excited about it. I am mostly doing it to make my groom feel so special and loved. It’s going to be a super surprise for him. I love him so much! It’s part of one of my fiance’s gifts, straight from my heart. He will love it! Absolutely love it. 

    Mine is quite sentimental. It’s the basketball court of the Indiana Pacers basketball team, complete with team emblems and basketball hoops etc….There will be two balls, a pink one and a regular ball, because we always play basketball together and i have a pink BBall. 

    I am so excited! I know he will love it:) I didn’t mind the extra expense. It’s worth it to me. My wedding cake is 375, plus 30 refundable deposit. My grooms cake is only 190:)

    I have one of the top bakers in my part of the state:)

    Post # 25
    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m from the Midwest, so a Groom’s Cake has never been a big thing around here.  I personally have never seen one at a wedding.  I only recently learned about them through my own wedding process.  Thankfully my Fiance isn’t that fond of cake, so no need to splurge on a cake for him.  The wedding cake will be good enough!  Yay!

    Post # 26
    327 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have seen pictures online and think it is a great way to include my Fiance in the wedding. He has some crazy ideas sometimes and I just have to say no! So at least he can have his own cake.

    Post # 27
    6253 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    It is a Southern thing. The reason is this:

    Here in the South/Southern Midwest, most weddings don’t serve a full dinner. A lot only have peanuts, mints/jordan almonds, punch and cake. Having a groom’s cake offers the guests more variety, and also allows you to serve a greater amount of cake (since each guest will be eating more cake b/c there is no meal) without the wedding cake proper having to be HUGE. 

    Post # 28
    866 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    While the idea of a “groom’s cake” may have originated in the South, it has since evolved into a reference to a “non-traditional” wedding cake that is usually served alongside the “traditional” one.

    For us, what many people would call a groom’s cake is actually our wedding cake! Our real dessert is a pastry Viennese table, but we still wanted to cut something. So we’re having a cake that looks like Fenway Park, we’ll whip out our Sox hats, and the song will be “Sweet Caroline” (for the non-Sox fans, that’s kind of like the Fenway theme song). This cake won’t be served at the reception, it will go back to the kitchen to be cut and served at the post-wedding dinner instead.

    I’m all in favor of cakes with character, and what you call it — besides delicious! — is just semantics.

    Post # 29
    1667 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m from the south, and I’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t have one. It’s a fun way to express the groom’s personality and to offer a different cake flavor if you don’t like the main cake (with the recent popularity of multiple flavors in one cake, this second point is somewhat mute).

    I’m having one, it’s a small cake, but I know he will love the surprise 🙂

    Post # 31
    4381 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    i never realized people didn’t do grooms’ cakes before i read weddingbee! i guess it is a southern thing.

    ours was basic, and just an excuse to have lots of extra chocolate. 🙂

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