(Closed) Why do people have to making everything so complicated. #weddingplanningproblems

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
124 posts
Blushing bee

Just a thought and definitely not trying to be rude, but if they cannot afford the dress and tux, how are they going to afford a babysitter?  Maybe that’s why she said that she’s going to bring her youngest?  If that’s the case maybe you can try and figure out a way with your future hubby of how to get them a babysitter or how to handle the situation.  As I have noticed, normally with cases like this, there is normally an underlying issue that the person does not want to blurt out because they are embarressed, maybe some one on one time with her to figure that out will solve the problem?

Post # 3
5867 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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ahough2:  I’m sorry you’re having this issue :/

Sometimes I do think people make things a lot harder than they need to be.  In my case having a small wedding party really made life simple.  

It’s hard when you make choices that you knwo are not going to be accepted in your social circle.  Going against the grain will cause you more grief.  But hey, money talks!  If you are paying you make the rules.  As long as you aren’t being rude to anyone (you aren’t) then you should just be firm but polite in reinforcing with people who question things.  

Post # 5
2266 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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ahough2:  I just wanted to add that it would not in fact be rude to have your children at your wedding, even if no one else’s children are invited. This is in no way an etiquette faux-pas. 

Post # 6
2478 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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crackktheskyy:  + 1

There’s no reason at all to exclude your own children from your wedding even if you’ve not invited other children. It’s perfectly acceptable and not a breach of etiquette.

As for your sister-in-law, you just have to be absolutely clear that NO other children are invited. Like none. If she throws a strop and refuses to be in the bridal party then that’s her choice. Right now she’s playing stressful games with you. Refuse to engage in them.

Post # 8
910 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


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ahough2:  you are allowed to have a child free wedding.  Guests will either have to find a sitter or not attend.

You are most certainly allowed to have your own children at your own wedding.  Please invite them and let them share in your special day…..

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