Post # 1
My friends and family were always saying how they would be happy to help me with anything I needed while planning this wedding. Especially since my husband is still in afghanistan so im really by myself on this one.
So ive been planning it for a few weeks finally and EVERY time ive asked anyone to help me its all of a sudden a huge inconvience!!
Just as an example. My car broke down yesterday evening and I had to do drive to the store today to do some errends for the wedding so I ask my mom to drive me to the store and she whines about gas and time etc etc and I ended up giving her money just to take me to the dang store! And then tonight she starts talking about how she “wants to help more” etc etc and I just roll my eyes.
I mean honestly. Why do people do this? I really just dont get it. Even my friends have done a few things like this.
Post # 3
I wish I understood it as well, but as Fiance and I always say, we can’t depend on anyone but ourselves. It’s sad yet so true.
Post # 4
Yeah we definitely aren’t depending on anyone…but giving people pieces of projects that they seem interested in. Everything will be ready to go even if they decide they’re not really interested in it anymore.
We also haven’t asked for any help. Mostly we get demands for projects so it’s sort of hard coming up with ways to share tasks without giving over complete dependence.
My aunt wanted tons of projects and was all huffy about our Target registry. She thought we should register at Macys. So we said she could go over our registry and come up with some ideas to add…well she went nuts and basically added and cut everything and told us other stores to buy things at…oh well! Haha!!
Post # 5
People don’t typically want to bail you out if an annoying situation. They want to be included in the fun parts and the decision-making.
Post # 6
So true. No one wants to help with the dirty work of a wedding or anything too “hard”. But thats usually what you need the most help with. :/
Post # 7
I have found that out more and more often as I am planning this wedding. They want to be involved or give input, but I end up eventuaLly doing all the work! UGH!