Post # 1
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Busy bee
Its been a few weeks since my wedding and I usually dont think about the fact that we are a interracial couple, but last night my dad told me that at his work (a hospital) a coworker came up to him and was talking about a wedding she had seen at a hotel she was staying at (naming my venue, my date, and describing me) and there was *gasp* black and white people mixing! And to top it off, the bride was white and the groom was black and it was just disgusting! My father, to his credit, proudly informed his coworker that she had seen his daughter and his new son in laws wedding. Needless to say, she shut up quickly and I imagine feels very awkward, and I got a laugh out of it, but I am still a bit surprised, we live in the NE and while I know people have issues with interracial couples I still havent heard anything directly (people tend to save their comments for behind our backs.) I like to think that people like her are in the minority but how can I know? Have any other brides encountered negative opinions about their relationships?
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
“why do people still have issues with my interracial marriage?”
Answer: Because they’re dumb.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
I hope you are thick skinned. You are now getting a taste of the attitudes that minorites have been dealing with for years.
By The Way, you will never know. Like you said, it’s done behind your back, in secrecy, amongst themselves (as far as they know).
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
Wow! Seriously? This blows my mind!
I am not in an interratial relationship but I still can’t believe there are people out there who would balk at white and black people “mixing”… WTF!!!!!!
Post # 6
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Honey bee
The same reason people have issues with gay marriages, or just being gay, with religious intolerance etc.
Sadly there will always be predudices for a long time to come.
I call it ignorance and they defend it with any number of silly arguments.
Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
Mr. Tattoo’s family (moms side) in the south make dumb comments like that. Like one time his aunt said, “No. I’m not allowing that n*gger to stay in my house! She can stay at a hotel alone.” Yeah…not invited to the wedding. The only people on his mom’s side that’s invited is his mom, her husband, two uncles, and his siblings. Everyone else can choke.
You become numb to it after a while.
Post # 9
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Newbee
You’d be surprised. Even people you wouldn’t expect say things like that when they think they’re comfortable with you. My friend’s parents flipped out when she was dating a black guy. They claimed they were just worried about how difficult it would be for her and what people would think, but I just don’t think they were thrilled with it personally.
I once knew a girl who married a white guy (she was asian), but had a discussion with a bunch of us about how she’d never have kids with her husband because she didn’t think it was a good idea to have a mixed kid.
Post # 10
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Honey bee
The weirdest part of this post (to me) is that she would come right up to your dad and tell him that. How strange! I work with ladies like that, just trying to stir up trouble and not caring who gets hurt in the process.
There will always be racist people, most will be racist behind your back. But if it wasn’t for race, they would find something else terrible to say, just for the attention/drama.
Post # 11
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Honey bee
Maybe it depends on the location but I haven’t seen any issues with interracial marriages. I’ve lived in two areas my life (suburbs of Philadelphia and now Seattle) and I’ve noticed people really don’t care.
Although, I guess it doesn’t really depend on location either. There will still be people who are still stuck in that mindset.
Sorry, that someone said that about your wedding. I would be so pissed if I heard that about my wedding.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
…because they are ignorrant?
Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
That’s awful. Your dad sounds like an awesome guy though. What a close minded little shrew that woman is. And what would make her think your dad would agree with her?! That’s just terrible. Trust me, there are far more people who don’t notice what colour(s) couples are and just see happy people in love than people like her. Don’t let the bad ones bring you down.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father\'s Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
People are mean and ignorant. Plain and simple. It’s sad that people let their minds be clouded by prejudice and hate. Often times they haven’t even really met and gotten to know a person of the group that they hate. It’s sad. Keep your chin up, you have more love and class in you than that stupid lady has in her pinky toe.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
That’s terrible. Honestly, I don’t really get it either. That’s their biggest problem in life, considering it’s not even a problem? And to use words like “disgusting?” Really? Yeesh.
Post # 16
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Newbee
This didn’t happen to me, but this just popped into my head too. I had a friend in college who had been dating this girl for a few years. His family was totally cool with her and the relationship until one day they happened to meet her parents. Well they are Mexican and his parents had no idea she was mexican (she’s very fair skinned, blue eyes) and instantly everything changed. They insisted he end the relationship. He didn’t, but just an example. I have no idea why they had such a big issue with it, but it was shocking after so long.
