Why do people suck so much? (RSVPs)

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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3263 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

“Play it by ear”… that’s such BS. I would reply “putting you down as a no”.

 

Post # 3
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219 posts
Helper bee

hawkeyebride2be :  ugh, yes I agree with you. People like this are shitty! Honestly, if I were you, I would just respond to the text message with “since there are only 9 days until the wedding, we need a firm ‘yes’ or ‘no’ on your attendance. Since you’re unsure, unfortunately I’m going to have to put you and your kids down as a ‘no’.” What kind of person thinks it’s acceptable to just “play it by ear” and just “shoot up to the wedding” if they feel like it? 

Thats not how this works. That’s not how any of this works. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Sorry that people are so shitty. Just think ahead to your wedding. You’ll have a beautiful day and won’t even think of any of these people for a second. They’re not worth it. 

Post # 4
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3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

People suck but thats life. I’m determined not to let this stress me out when the time comes. I will reach out one time only and if its a wishy washy response or maybe I’ll politely let them know they will have to be marked as a no. 🤗 Easy peasy. That text is a load of crap, he’d be marked as a no. You will not be playing it by ear on my wedding day sorry pal.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Im sorry- “play it by ear” is especially rude.

 

Lately I’ve been trying to remind myself that wedding planning has sort of sucked me into this world of etiquette and expectations that outsiders simply aren’t tapped into.  Not an excuse for anybody, but it’s less annoying if I remember that people don’t realize how inconsiderate they are being.  

Post # 7
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1537 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Is he married? Does he not know how catering works? Ugh.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

hawkeyebride2be :  I would absolutely message this cousin back and say, “Actually, that doesn’t work for me. I have put you down as a firm no. We will catch up with after we return from our honeymoon.”

This was my biggest pet peeve about wedding planning: that people just kind of suck. Like at their core, in the rawest form–they suck. Weddings bring out the best and worst in people. In this instance, it’s brought out that your dad’s friend will use any excuse not to attend, that your cousin doesn’t make a major life change for you a priority, and that your FI’s cousin would rather “play it by ear” than make a concentrated effort to attend. These people have shown you who they are–I’m not saying I’d cut them out, but these would not be people I’d actively try to have in my life anymore. Your wedding may not be as important to anyone else as it is to you, but to those nearest and dearest, they should absolutely make an effort to attend. 

Post # 12
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1565 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Lol! Enjoy national wine day! You’ve definitely earned it for dealing with numbskulls like this.

I do worry that your response isn’t clear enough, though. I think you need to follow up with something like, “Since the final number is due to the venue today, I’m putting you and your kids down as ‘no.'” Otherwise I wouldn’t be surprised if he still drops by if/whenever he feels like it.

Post # 14
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1565 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

hawkeyebride2be :  Oh, good. I hope he gets the hint all by himself but, considering his previous demonstration of utter cluelessness about how the world works, I doubt he’ll figure it out. Sounds like you’ve got it covered, though. Good luck!

Post # 15
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1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I feel you.

We have to turn in our final numbers next week. And I’m still having problems nailing people down. I’m still missing 20 RSVPs. Not 20 people. 20 cards.

IT’S $100 A PERSON. I NEED TO KNOW YOU ASS HAT.

Ugh sorry. Need wine.

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