- 1 year ago
Is it just me, or does anyone else think that the planning for proposals is a bit…extensive? Superfluous? I mean, I understand if someone wants a very specific ring (e.g. designer brand, expensive=more time to save up money to afford, etc.), a photographer to capture the moment, etc…perhaps the proposer wants to plan a special weekend away, or set up an elorabote surprise. I get it, those things take time. But dang, I just want to marry my guy already. We’ve been together for almost 6 years now and have a house together (no kids, but we definitely agree that we want some later down the road). Everyone tells us “you’re so young, there’s no rush, you have your whole lives together to get married and have kids!” …well, yeah, exactly. We have our whole lives together…which I want to spend married to my guy. And really, do we have “all the time in the world” to do all the things we want to? I feel like everyone says that, and then you blink and 6 years have already gone by. I don’t buy the whole “you have all the time in the world” phrase for a second. Especially because we don’t know what the future holds, hell we could die tomorrow (not to be dramatic LOL but you know what I mean…to be fair, we’ve both almost died in an event that happened a few years ago SOOO my point stands). Nobody knows if you truly “have all the time in the world.” What we do know is we have now, the present. I’m not saying that means we should be drastic and cross off everything on our bucket list in one day because we might die tomorrow. LOL. *Speaking strictly towards marriage/the person you love and know you want to marry,* I’m saying why does it need so much planning if you’re not into elaborate proposals? My guy has told me he wants to propose sometime in the next 6 months, which I’m totally fine with, but at the same time it’s driving me crazy because I’ve known I wanted to marry him since we were at 3 years of dating. ***Please don’t tell me “If you’ve had to wait this long he’s never going to propose!” We’re in our mid-20’s so yes, we’re still young (“babies” to some people, I’m sure) and we’ve had to figure out careers/schooling/him being ‘ready’ before we got to this point of knowing we want to be engaged within the next year.*** He wants the proposal to be a surprise (he loves surprises…me, not so much, but I know he’s excited about it being ” a complete surprise” for me -his words- so I’m trying to be okay with this being a surprise and not getting too anxious about it LOL). I don’t even know what the ring will look like because he wants to pick it out himself (although he agreed that he’d stick to my “must-haves” for practical reasons- e.g. I want a low profile ring because ain’t nobody got time to wear a damn bulky rock on their finger LOL I’m an artist and a teacher, I don’t need a huge stone snagging on things and getting in the way! He also knows I don’t need an expensive ring, and we both have a good amount in our savings so money isn’t an issue. Anyways, he knows what kind of ring I like, he knows I don’t like huge public events/crowds (and neither does he) so he wouldn’t be planning an elaborate public display of romance (read: mob proposal to post on youtube), he knows he wants to marry me. I think he knows me well enough to know that I would be ecstatic with a simple proposal, just the two of us or even with our friends and family. I don’t really care about how it happens, I just want to marry the love of my life already! And I don’t know why there has to be so much planning (which, in my eyes, looks a bit superfluous because like I said, you don’t truly know if you have forever). I want to marry because of who he is, and that’s not dependent on how the proposal turns out. Hell he could propose to me in our backyard randomly and I’d be ecstatic. A quote pops in my mind- “when you want to be with someone forever, you want forever to start now” or something like that, not sure where I heard it, but it resonates with what I’m talking about here.
***Note: Just so we’re clear, I don’t pester or nag my guy about getting married- hence, the reason why I’m posting on here, to get all my feelings out on one place anonymously so that I don’t go to him with all this LOL/sarcasm. I’m mostling looking to relate to others who are also waiting (and waiting, and waiting, and waiting…) Also if you have any cute proposal stories, SHARE! I’d love to hear them. If you’re also waiting, SHARE! We can talk about our frustrations together, and I won’t pester you about pestering your guy too much about marriage or being ‘too young’ or not pestering him enough. Deal?