(Closed) Why do so many people complain about their husbands!

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@SnoopDog:  +1

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@daybyday:  +1 and I appreciate when friends and colleagues do the same! It’s kind of awkward when people put down their SO…

I cringe thinking of my husband saying those kinds of things about ME! Meep! I would never complain about him in that way. 

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@katydaisy:  I love DH and yeah he does things that get on my nerves but I still look forward to going home at the end of the day.  IDK why the women you work around hate their husbands… 🙁 Sad.

Post # 64
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t talk about my problems with my Fiance with anyone but him, but in reality. I don’t find him to be a pain, I’m rarely ever annoyed with him, and I can barely contain my excitement when he’s on his way home. Some people just have terrible relationships and no filters…

Post # 65
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Buzzing bee

@katydaisy:  

DH and I eloped after dating for two years, and after eloping, a small group of my closest friends and family threw a surprise shower for me.

I remember distinctly that two of them told me, jokingly, that the honeymoon would be over in six to nine months. They have both been married about ten years. They joked about how they love getting away from their husbands for girls’ nights out, they order their husbands not to call them so much, and they teased me because I was still starry-eyed and madly in love.

 

Like you, I was a little worried and I wondered if DH and I would eventually reach a phase where we found each other annoying.

I’m happy to say we will have been married two years as of this Christmas — together as a couple for four –and I am still madly in love with my husband. I never complain about him. I’m too busy thanking my lucky stars for such an amazing husband. I ADORE him, and we get along like two peas in a pod.

I hope this makes you feel better. 

 

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My husband gets on my nerves, but I love him to death. We definitely have our downsides but the upsides cancel the downs out.

Post # 67
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’ve never understood this. My husband and I just celebrated our 8 year dating anniversary and I still get excited to see him after work. Granted, there are days where I’m just annoyed or angry at him, but I’d never discuss that with anyone but him. I am an extremely private person though.

I, too, work with a bunch of women who complain about their husbands and I often wonder if they feel guilty talking shit about their spouses.

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I call this husband bashing, and I do not engage. LOL. It’s kinda hard, especially when someone is complaining about their husband and you almost want to make them feel better, but I always refrain from husband bashing.

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@katydaisy:  Nope, that isn’t common round my way either. Actually I’ve found the opposite- once my friends have got married they stop complaining about their partners all together, I guess out of loyalty.

Yep you’ve been with your SO for less than three years so there’s been less time for him to grate on you. You don’t mention whether you’re living with him yet, but I think it’s inevitable that someone you live with is going to annoy you eventually, so that might be something that changes with time, especially if you know you’re tied together for all eternity. 

I think relationships do need a regular “MOT” to make sure that everything is ok – just a sit down once a month to check up on how you’re both feeling and whether there’s anything that needs work on. Couples that don’t do that are more likely to have things escalate. My partner and I often sit down and try to nip things in the bud before they get worse, even little things like how he leaves the toilet seat up (although I have yet to see improvement on that front….)

Perhaps more importantly, I have many friends that are teachers and I’m going to be honest, I find them generally a very complaining bunch! I think it comes with the profession 😉

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Nails_Polished:  LOL! I laughed so hard at this, just imagining what it would be like if I posted a status like that. :p

“Today J and I had a disagreement over something. We talked about it like actual adults and now everything is fine.”

But yeah, I try not to gush about my SO on Facebook. Mainly because I know it would be insanely annoying to other people haha and I don’t want to be that girl.

I also don’t post anything at all about any arguments or fights we may have. I hate it when people post drama like that.

I also never complain about my SO to family, friends or coworkers. It’s not any of their business. 

Post # 71
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Amayansong Hahaha!

OP: I’ve been with my DH for nearly 4 years now and I still love having him around. I have a friend who is always complaining about her DH and is mean about it too. I try not to complain about my when I’m frusterated, I try to say positive things about him instead. Sometimes it can be hard! I want to show him respect when he’s not around. I do ask a few trusted friends for advice on some things in regards with dealing with his messiness bc I know they’ve gone through it too.

Post # 72
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

I have a lady at work who constantly nags about her husband. We have work gatherings with our family members, and it makes me not like the guy because of what she says about him. lol.

I love my Fiance and never talk bad about him!! if there’s something wrong he’s the one i talk to; and i think thats how it should be!

Post # 73
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Fairytale romantic feelings?  No.  Just no.  That is not what makes a relationship.  Going through some bullshit and getting through it sunnyside up if you’re lucky makes a relationship.  And not even just between the two of you — death in the family, losing a job, moving across the country, etc.  If you can fly through life 80 years and not want to snap each other’s neck at least once, then you’re a fucking saint.  And if you’ve never complained about your significant other to your BFF ONE time then you deserve a medal.

Serious laundry?  Sometimes need to be aired.  Because we’re humans and that’s life.  And women especially sometimes need a sounding board.  That doesn’t make you awful, that makes  you normal.

Post # 74
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517 posts
Busy bee

@nataliegrace90:  +1. It’s sad. And I get the fact that people bond over complaining about things they deal with, but we can choose to also bond over the good stuff. But yeah, the “poor me” syndrome is pretty prevalent.

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@joya_aspera:  YES! Every time I catch myself complaining about my hubby (to myself) this little voice inside of me asks “well, have YOU been 100% the best wife you can be to him?”

Post # 75
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

No one is perfect. A perfect husband can’t be expected. Of course there are going to be things to complain about. I could go on all day about little things my husband does that annoy me. It’s only a bad sign if they are complaining about their husbands being abusive and things of that nature. Leaving his dirty socks laying around? Eh, I wouldn’t consider complaining about that a sign of an unhappy marriage. 

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Artificial-Sweetener:  

+1 Two years is still the honeymoon phase, especially when a couple doesn’t live together.

I have complained about my husband because he can be a pain in the ass, just as we all can. I am well aware that I am far from perfect.

I think it is normal to complain about your spouse because relationships always have friction. Everybody needs to vent sometimes about their spouse. Husbands also complain about different things too.

 

 

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