Post # 1
This is totally me being inquisitive without having any children of my own yet. Plus, you add the fact that everyone posts every detail of their lives on social media nowadays. I have come across several of my friends who have screaming crying children in Santa pictures and while it’s laughable I think it’s weird and cruel. “Santa” is a complete stranger! In what other circumstance would people hand their children over to a stranger or make them sit on a random man’s lap all for a picture with someone who isn’t even real? I’m genuinely curious as to what parents think about this. Both sides of the spectrum those who make their kids and those who don’t. I’m not looking for the Santa pushers to jump down anyone’s throat and say “It’s the spirit of Christmas, ” blah blah. I genuinely want to know why all the hype and why force your children?
Post # 2
“I’m not looking for the Santa pushers to jump down anyone’s throat and say “It’s the spirit of Christmas, ” blah blah. I genuinely want to know why all the hype and why force your children?”
Isn’t them saying “it’s the spirit of Christmas” an answer to your question? Isn’t that why they “force” their children? And I’m not sure you seem “genuinely” curious in some unbiased way when you call people “Santa pushers”…
Post # 3
The same reason they take yearly school pictures. Its remembering your children when they are young, hitting milestones, such as their 1st-10th christmas.
I am often a fan of “You Do You”, and this case in no exception. If you do not want your children (Now or Future) to have pics with Mall Santa, don’t do it, but do not lecture others for doing what they would like.
Post # 4
Time to celebrate the holidays by lying to our children and forcing them to sit on a strange man at the mall, after we convince them that he has magic powers and will give them toys in return.
Santa is a perfectly cute story (just like any other kid’s story, from Mickey Mouse to Spongebob to Scooby Doo). But the fact that people lie to their kids and tell them he’s real is so freaking CREEPY to me. Especially when they use the story as an attempt to make their kids behave. “Hey Johnny, be nice to your sister! There’s a fat, magical old white man watching you right now!”
Post # 5
Kids can be super super super excited to do something and then when it’s finally their turn they are so overwhelmed they start to wail. Why do you think so many kids cry at thier own birthday parties?
I wouldn’t be so quick to assume you know what’s going on.
Also, grumpy/side-eye baby pictures are my favorite, sorry not sorry. My friends baby looks like a little old man when she’s upset (first time at the beach; first time eating squash; first time…) and it’s enough to make you cry with laughter.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica
I don’t think a lot of people “force” their children to sit on Santa. A lot of the times I know the kid is fine til they’re not. Like they wanted to see Santa and were totally okay with it and then just started crying. It’s cute. I don’t think anyone looks back at old Santa photos and thinks omg I’m still so traumatized from that!
Post # 7
What is a Santa pusher? 😉
I don’t see myself pushing my child to sit if she’s bawling but I totally agree with pp, they can be completely fine and excited one minute, then bawl when it’s time.
Post # 8
Well, I don’t think parents take their kids to visit Santa anticipating they will scream and cry and wanting a funny picture- lots of little kids are super excited to go visit him and tell him what they want for Christmas, and then once they’re actually confronted with the reality that he’s just a stranger, they freak out a little or like someone else said, they just get overwhelmed.
Post # 9
I get where you’re coming from haha but I have to admit some of my favorite/funniest childhood photos are of baby me with mall santa or even the bunny for easter. I don’t feel traumatized by the experience, I hardly remember it! So I think it’s relatively safe to assume it’s a harmless tradition.
Post # 10
As someone speaking from the other side of parenting (mine are teens) it is such a brief moment in what will inevitably be a life full of tiny traumas and big traumas and huge moments and mundane moments. My kids liked Santa. So we did Santa. But one of my favorite photos of my son (which he too thinks is hilarious, BTW) he is NOT thrilled with the prospect of sitting on a giant bunny. As a parent, I haven’t stressed over every tiny moment of my kids’ lives. I truly have not contemplated the long term effects of every single little detail. I don’t know if it was because I was a teen mom, or because I lived somewhere rural where kids are just sort of allowed to run free. But my kids are fine, great even. And I’m actually pretty thankful that I didn’t spend time obsessing over the stupidest crap. Like whether or not to let my kid sit on Santa’s lap…
Also…I love people who don’t have kids judging the shit out of people who do. It’s just so warm and fuzzy. It really just makes the lives of parents so much easier, you know? Like so many of us aren’t already second guessing everything we do…
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
DoubleD : Well, I wanted my daughter to have the appropriate response to Christmas; terror, loathing, and retroactive nostalgia.
I figured making her hang out with Santa was best way to have a photgraphic record of that process.
Post # 12
desertgypsy : never judged you or any other parent for doing what you do. I am asking about the part where children do NOT want to sit on a STRANGER’S lap and people still make them. The whole thing that sparked my “super judgemental non-parental post towards every parent that made them feel judged” was a friend of mine who has a 4 year old son and 3 year old daughter. Son loved Santa and the daughter side eyed and cried when he made them go closer. He then posted how he is trying to force her to get closer to Santa for a different activity and she DOESNT like him. The point is not about hating Santa or believing in it. Its forcing children to sit with or on a STRANGER’S lap when they’ve clearly expressed that they’re scared. And some people have said they’re excited and then change their mind so why arent children allowed to do that?
Post # 13
I hope to traumatize my children early and frequently so they can sack up and get prepared for the real world.
Post # 14
tommywantwingy : right I agree with that my mom has pictures with us and him even tho we didn’t believe he was real. Nor were any of us afraid. But why aren’t children who can say they don’t like it or have aversion still made to do it? And it’s not in the sense of “my kid is crying because I told them to pick up their toys.” It’s a stranger and as I see more and more of my friends post pictures it dawned on me that a lot of the children are crying not actually happy maybe because of that fact. Could be something different idk but that’s a good reason.
Post # 15
When we say they change their minds and bawl, it’s not when they are in line to see Santa.
It’s when they are fine, you put them on Santa’s lap, they look up, then suddenly start to bawl and a picture is taken.