(Closed) why do some people have to be so negative and hatefull…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Agreed.  I don’t necessarily get the point of them (I understand the reasoning behind them, it just isn’t my thing), but hey, if it makes you happy, go for it!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is this in regards to the replies to your other post or regarding reactions you get in real life?

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I don’t get why anyone would care about someone else’s anything. I wouldn’t want half the things people post for me, bit I can be happy for someone if it makes her happy! 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@eeerika22:  Maybe they’re jealous.  But jealousy doesn’t give them any right to be rude or disrespectful. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

I’m sorry to hear someone has upset you *hugs*. Unfortunately some people have no manners and some people speak without thinking. I think a promise ring can be very speacial and at the end of the day it is what it means to you that matters. Don’t let tactless people get you down. You have someone who loves you enough to give that to you, that is more than a lot of people can say.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t know, I say do you, whatever works! People probably don’t understand since it’s not traditional. But I would not ask for opinions if you’re nervous about what others will say.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

People just have their own ideas of how things are supposed to go, and when it’s appropriate to give a symbol of events, etc. I, for one, am in the group that doesn’t understand promise/pre-engagement rings. I feel they are stalling with a stand-in for the real thing. But that’s just MY opinion.

I get where you are coming from though. I’ve mentioned to people that we will be engaged for 3 ish years once it happens, and they look at me like I have three heads. “Well what’s the point of the engagement if you’re not planning a wedding for next year?” Uhm…riiight.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think what people wear as jewelry and what meaning it has is up to the person wearing it. There are no rules about what jewelery you can wear when, where, and for what reason, nor does it effect anyone else anyway. 

I have a “promise” ring that I have always worn on my right hand and I will continue to wear even after I am married. For us it wasn’t a “stand in” engagement ring (we were not even close to considering marriage seriously yet), it was more like a symbol of where our relationship was at the time and it means a lot to both of us.

It’s weird, but I think it’s because it is a ring that so many women have such a problem with it. If it were a “promise necklace” they’d be fine with that, but they seem to think that giving rings is reserved for when you’re actually engaged or married. It’s silly.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

THEY’RE HAAAAATERS. I don’t personally “get them” only because i’ve never had one , probably. But, I have a friend that LAUGHS at them. She thinks they are a “fake engagement” ring and she thinks that basically people are trying to SEEM more serious than they actually are. I think that’s so ruuuude and judgemental. We don’t know what goes on in other relationships so we can never judge anything. And if someone is so in love that they get their girl a promise ring….that’s a good thing, not a bad thing.

People will never be happy when their jealous. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s extra jewelry… how can that be bad?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I don’t hate them or think they’re stupid (like a PP said, extra jewelry!) but at least from my anecdotal experience with them I’ve known maybe a dozen or so girls who have been given designated “promise rings” and exactly zero of them are still with their promise-ring-givers.  I think thats why the terms “juvenile” and “pointless” may be associated with them.

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