Post # 1
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Helper bee
I dont understand why people have to be so rude and hatefull towards promise rings or pre engagement rings. I respect if you dont like them or if you would not wear one but you dont need to tell someone who is happy to have one that they are pointless. You may have something that means a lot to you that I may not understand and I would never tell you I think its stupid. I think it is so disrespectful… >_<
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
Agreed. I don’t necessarily get the point of them (I understand the reasoning behind them, it just isn’t my thing), but hey, if it makes you happy, go for it!
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Is this in regards to the replies to your other post or regarding reactions you get in real life?
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I don’t get why anyone would care about someone else’s anything. I wouldn’t want half the things people post for me, bit I can be happy for someone if it makes her happy!
Post # 6
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Helper bee
@redheadem: I have had a few people say things on here but I dont think anything of it cause it wasn’t in a rude mannor. No one in my personal life has said anything as well. I have read other things online about promise rings and I was shocked of the responses some people were saying to another. Its just frustrating.
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
@eeerika22: Maybe they’re jealous. But jealousy doesn’t give them any right to be rude or disrespectful.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
I’m sorry to hear someone has upset you *hugs*. Unfortunately some people have no manners and some people speak without thinking. I think a promise ring can be very speacial and at the end of the day it is what it means to you that matters. Don’t let tactless people get you down. You have someone who loves you enough to give that to you, that is more than a lot of people can say.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
I don’t know, I say do you, whatever works! People probably don’t understand since it’s not traditional. But I would not ask for opinions if you’re nervous about what others will say.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
People just have their own ideas of how things are supposed to go, and when it’s appropriate to give a symbol of events, etc. I, for one, am in the group that doesn’t understand promise/pre-engagement rings. I feel they are stalling with a stand-in for the real thing. But that’s just MY opinion.
I get where you are coming from though. I’ve mentioned to people that we will be engaged for 3 ish years once it happens, and they look at me like I have three heads. “Well what’s the point of the engagement if you’re not planning a wedding for next year?” Uhm…riiight.
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
I think what people wear as jewelry and what meaning it has is up to the person wearing it. There are no rules about what jewelery you can wear when, where, and for what reason, nor does it effect anyone else anyway.
I have a “promise” ring that I have always worn on my right hand and I will continue to wear even after I am married. For us it wasn’t a “stand in” engagement ring (we were not even close to considering marriage seriously yet), it was more like a symbol of where our relationship was at the time and it means a lot to both of us.
It’s weird, but I think it’s because it is a ring that so many women have such a problem with it. If it were a “promise necklace” they’d be fine with that, but they seem to think that giving rings is reserved for when you’re actually engaged or married. It’s silly.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
@pharmy: yeah and I respect you for feeling that way. You told me your opinion and you didnt say things like “pointless” or “stupid” “waste of time” I can def relate to you when you tell people about your plans on getting married. You dont HAVE to get engaged then get married within the year.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
@DeathByDesign: I agree and I think its so wonderful that you feel the same way with the meaning. When the day comes when I get my E ring I dont want to every stop wearing my pre engagement ring either. It just means so much and im happyy you were able to find the same happiness as I do 🙂
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
THEY’RE HAAAAATERS. I don’t personally “get them” only because i’ve never had one , probably. But, I have a friend that LAUGHS at them. She thinks they are a “fake engagement” ring and she thinks that basically people are trying to SEEM more serious than they actually are. I think that’s so ruuuude and judgemental. We don’t know what goes on in other relationships so we can never judge anything. And if someone is so in love that they get their girl a promise ring….that’s a good thing, not a bad thing.
People will never be happy when their jealous.
Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
It’s extra jewelry… how can that be bad?
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
I don’t hate them or think they’re stupid (like a PP said, extra jewelry!) but at least from my anecdotal experience with them I’ve known maybe a dozen or so girls who have been given designated “promise rings” and exactly zero of them are still with their promise-ring-givers. I think thats why the terms “juvenile” and “pointless” may be associated with them.