(Closed) Why do some people think the cost of their engagement ring deternines worth

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

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alamana:  BOOM!  Exactly.  We do live in a status driven world and the bridal and diamond industry push it to the limit.  Ever buy a wedding magazine and see rings with smaller stones, or clusters?  Nope.  They are freaking ginormous and the industry says that if he loves you, this is what you should have.

Post # 17
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Honey bee

My ring was free – it was my grandmother’s. The stone is all of 1/4 carat. I’ve never had it re-set and I’ve never upgraded. And we’ve been married almost 40 years.

Some women I know, with large diamonds, are on their 2nd or 3rd marriage. Size doesn’t matter …

Post # 18
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Newbee

I told my boyfriend I did not want a diamond because I have been engaged before and that ring was $2000, and the relationship was terrible. He asked me to shop around, so I did and we are going with a Morganite and it’s under $600, and I’m in love with it. I realized it’s not the ring that has value but the relationship.. We are also not having an expensive wedding….I made that very clear and he agreed!!

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Yikes. Sounds like she has bigger issues with her own self-confidence and perspective. I’d say “poor groom,” but he chose her, so she must be the type of person he was looking for! Again…yikes.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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sparkles1986:  Whoa, that’s actually a relatively reasonable way for her to deal with the situation! Good for her. Not as good as just being ok with the ring her fiance picked in the first place, but at least she’s acknowledging his financial situation.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My ring’s center stone is just under half a carat, which is exactly what I wanted anyways, and I’ve never been on the receiving end of a rude comment about my ring’s size. Either I’m really lucky, or people really don’t care about other people’s ring sizes as much as we’re led to believe. I totally agree that some people need to get over the size/cost drama and remember– if the person wearing the ring loves it, that’s all that matters!

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Post # 23
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Busy bee

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sparkles1986:  This is totally beside the point, but it would be great if you got pics that you could share! I am sure we are all imagining a wide range of ring styles.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wonder wha the fiance thinks about her purchasing a new ring because his wasn’t good enough? 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

The media and wedding industry definitely influence brides to “want to have the biggest diamond.” It’s sad she’s acting that way, but maybe ask if she actually loves him because if so, it shouldn’t be about the ring. The fact that he shows he wants to spend forever with her should be plenty. I told my Fiance we don’t even need rings, but HE said he was not going to ask me without one because he would feel cheap. We decided on moissy together because it’s unique, beautiful, and inexpensive (I am a big money-saver).

My half brother proposed to my sister-in-law with my mom’s engagement ring from his dad, a marquise yellow gold cluster, and she loved it. She’s also a nurse and actually hates that they told her she couldn’t wear it to work (it sits up too high and might scratch patients I guess?) Cluster rings are beautiful, but I feel they’re definitely vintage looking and maybe she thinks vintage is cheap?

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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sparkles1986: My best friend also did this. Her Fiance bought her a ring she always said she wanted.. princess cut solitaire on a WG band. However it wasn’t “big enough” for her, so she paid for it to be reset in a sparkly halo setting. I think maybe they should’ve talked about the heirloom ring first and went from there, it would’ve saved so much trouble.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I don’t get people. Also, I feel like family rings are more “valuable” regardless of stone size. There’s something special about rings passed down from one generation to another. 

 

People ask me if my ring is expensive all the time and I find that a rude thing to ask. I just say that I don’t know, my Fiance picked out my ring all on his own. I don’t care to know how much it was, it’s priceless to me.

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