(Closed) Why do we get offended when men don't think fat is attractive?

posted 9 years ago in Wellness
Post # 77
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

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@KatyElle:  Agree agree agree times infinity.

Post # 78
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

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@miss sparkly cat:  I agree, it at first assumed that being fat was a hygeine issue, which is not always the case. Chin up, girl. I love you too. 🙂

Post # 79
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Buzzing bee
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@doberman:  That has to be one of the most offensive posts I have seen. 

Post # 80
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Busy bee
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@StormyRose:  I thought I was just being over sensitive, but I read it that way too! Glad I’m not just crazy.

Post # 81
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Bee Keeper

I gained a whopping 30 lbs in the year after Mr A and I got engaged. Funny thing is now he comments on how attractive I am and how fabulous my ass looks. 

He tells me now that I was pretty I was when we met but how I’m become a 10+ since then. 

 

Post # 82
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Bee Keeper

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@doberman:  Who is it a problem for? Certainly not you as it’s not your body.

I cannot believe the amount of judgment in this thread.

Post # 83
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

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@doberman:  eeeeeyikes. You may want to delete that last part. Do you have kids? Pregnancy and childbirth can do a number on your body and it’s not realistic to expect women to pop back to their old bodies. 

Post # 84
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Sugar Beekeeper
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@doberman:  Whoa. Judgemental much?

Post # 85
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Sugar Beekeeper
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@Aure:  You and me both. I read through most of it just shaking my head. As a “woman of size”, I’m pretty offended by some of the statements made in this thread. 

Post # 86
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Buzzing Beekeeper

My mother is thin and she said her body was never the same after kids. She worked out like a maniac after having my brother (I still remember the leg warmers and spandex she wore to the gym haha), wouldn’t have so much as an M&M and she could not drop some of the weight. My father bragged about how awesome she looked after kids, and you know why? Because she was bigger.

Post # 87
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Busy bee

Aww Jules I big puffy heart you. You too SoontobeMrsA 😉

Post # 88
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t get why these threads always turn into big vs. small. People like different body types and that is their own prerogative. If someone wants to date someone who weighs 150 lbs vs. 300 lbs then that is their choice just as it is for someone who would rather date someone who is 300 lbs vs 150 lbs. If someone is more attracted to someone of a certain size and that person later changes A LOT then it is normal for your level of physical attraction to change with it. 

Post # 89
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Bee Keeper

Miss doberman… Do you realize how many women you have insulted? Weight can be a very personal issue.How dare you judge women for the struggle they have gone through.

Post # 90
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@MrsPom:  I think that’s why the wife is upset. He’s more attracted to her now that she’s smaller than she was before. Like PP on the first page said, it just gives that ‘what was wrong with me before’ vibe.

Post # 91
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think the problem is that there are very very different expectations for what a man thinks is attractive in a random person and what a man thinks is attractive in his wife. 

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