(Closed) Why do we read into things so much?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee

@SunriseMidwest:  Seriously, I know.  I would trade places with a man or even a more laid-back woman in that respect.  I think it’s because women are more apt to both interpret and plan more than men do.  I hate it when I’m in one of “those” moods and women are just like “well, stay busy and live your own life and it will happen.”  I DO have my own fricken life, and it’s very full, to be exact.  I have a child, a fulfilling and demanding job, hobbies, and interests…maybe it’s just that women tend to know what they want more than men do, and then we just run with it…any little sign that we’re going to get what we want and we silently rejoice…any sign that we wont and we become mental cases.  At least that’s what it’s like for me 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Maybe it is a survival mechanism for us— maybe back in the day we had to interpret danger while the man was gone hunting our food so we could protect ourself and our young. LOL.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  It reminds me of a quote I saw somewhere…”Without hope, the heart would break.” I think we all like to have a little hope, and we can cling to whatever gives us hope. I know I do! When you know there’s hope for something, you keep fighting for it. That’s how I felt during my waiting process. I knew we had hope, we would make it, so I just kept working towards it. If there was no hope that we’d have a future, why keep fighting?

  That’s just my two cents :-).

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I totally agree with keepsmiling. Yeah, we could avoid thinking/talking/obsessing… but wouldn’t that be a lot less fun? I know I haven’t been waiting as long as you all (I’ve really only seriously been hoping for a proposal for about 5 months), but at least at this point, I still think it’s exciting to over-interpret everything he or his friends or family say.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@Psychgirl: It is- I agree, just after a while (with nothing happening to fuel it) all of the hoping makes me sad when nothing comes into frutation.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@armychica06: I totally agree with that! I think that’s why things like the Valentine’s Day Challenge are so good, too- it helps us force ourselves to get our mind off of weddings and proposals and focus on the amazing relationships we are in at the present. Not that I myself am doing all that well at the challenge, but I think that’s part of the idea in theory! 😉

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