(Closed) Why do we value our Wedding based on what it costs?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

haha I laughed at your “Avoid looking at wedding blogs” becuase I have been preaching that to my friends who are planning weddings near the same time as mine. There is something in a bridal magazine that flips a switch of crazyness in some peoples heads. I my self realized early on that I hate most things wedding related. So instead we are having a giant picnic with our friends and family to celebrate our marriage. I will wear a pretty dress and there will be cake. But thats about as ‘wedding’ as it is going to get.

Post # 4
46411 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why do we value our Marriage based on the Costs of our Wedding

I think your premise as stated in your title is completely incorrect. Even the immature people who fear that the value of their wedding is based on the cost of same, do not really believe that it reflects the value of their marriage.


Post # 5
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@abuttercreamwedding:  & @globalmargaret:  If only I read your post first!  I would’ve avoided wedding blogs like the plague.  Planning a budget friendly wedding is so hard if you see all these ideas and suggestions!  

Post # 9
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well said. As a second time bride, I don’t really care about the things I did the first time. The obsession to have everything perfect and expensive and just so. None of your guests notice. At all. They are going to remember the feeling they got seeing the bride come down the aisle, the emotions of the vows, did they have a good meal, did they have a few cocktails, did they enjoy spending time with friends and family, and was the music good? That is all. That is what I’m focusing on this time. My centerpieces are super cost effective, the hall was free through FI’s mom, my mom is doing our pictures, we are just going to enjoy it, and not spend our life savings.

Post # 10
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@globalmargaret:  ooo.. i am glad i am not the only one. I got married with my husband at the courthouse with both sets of parents as witness. That was it. We went to new york for our honeymoon =) Our little happy marriage was GOOD for 2 years so far without a wedding. No one said you need a wedding to get married. Just two people in love and devoted to each other. That’s all you need.

Post # 11
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Agreed. πŸ™‚ And very well-said, I might add. It’s so easy to get caught up in the money pit that is the wedding industry. My less than 10K wedding definitely served it’s fabulous purpose just as well as it would have had I spent a million bucks.

Post # 12
2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ha. My former bridesmaid said “I don’t know if I want to go to her cheap ass wedding anyhow!” about my wedding (one of the main reasons why she is a former bm). As if my wedding would be bad because I wasn’t having it at a country club and spending tens of thousands of dollars on it. She should have read this.

Post # 13
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I was worried about all that stuff…. cheap wedding… but I’ve never had so many people tell me they had so much fun, everyone visited and I have pictures of it all.  Much better than my SIL $90k wedding, i mean who cares if the seats in the limo are fur lined or not? We spent about $5k and that SIL said she had the  best time ever at a wedding .. she spent time with people she hadn’t seen in years …. that’s all i cared about was taht everyone have fun!

Post # 15
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@abuttercreamwedding:  ….this applies to those that spend a lot and DO care about all those details (for themselves, not necessarily to impress their guests) just as much as it applies to those that spend less.

While I can appreciate your point of view I also feel it is easy to point out how other people should and should not spend their money when it isn’t your situation/budget/financial ability or otherwise.

I have been to amazing low budget weddings and not so amazing big budget weddings.


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