- 11 years ago
- Wedding: December 2009
I was thinking about this earlier today at lunch.
A lot of us on here have expressed wanting to lose weight, or not being happy with ourselves, when clearly our hubbys/FI’s/SO’s are perfectly satisfied with the way we look or they wouldn’t be with us in the first place.
Just because we might be a little bigger than we would like, apparently we are perfect to our men.. so why is it that we are still so down on ourselves?
I guess it’s due to several things: media, comparing ourselves to random people, thinking if we are skinnier we will be happier, etc..
I’ve been skinnier, it’s true. Before I met now hubby, I was approx 10 lbs thinner. Was I happier? Um.. no. Since I have met him, I am a much happier person. Even though back then I weighed 149 lbs and now weigh 156 (I’m not afraid to say it) and I’m not as toned as I was, INSIDE I am happier. No, I don’t believe I look as good as I did then in a bathing suit, but I have a wonderful man who doesn’t judge me on those few extra lbs. I worked out a LOT back in those days. I was single, so I had more free time on my hands. Nowdays, I am not willing to dedicate 2 hours a day to exercise. Nope. I got a man to take care of! I still exercise, but not borderline obsessively like back in the day.
Sometimes I still freak out, especially if we are walking in a mall or something and there’s a super-tiny girl in front of me with tight jeans on and not an ounce of fat jiggling anywhere, but the truth is, even at my thinnest, I STILL had those thoughts. I will never be super-tiny with no jiggles. It’s not my body type. Do I find myself hideous? No. Does hubby find me unattractive? Apparently not. So why focus so much on it?
To focus on losing weight for health reasons is completely understandable.. I suggest that to everyone because we all want to live as long as possible, right?
To absolutely torture ourselves to reach an unattainable & idealistic version of us, is just miserable and will always leave us dissappointed.
We should all love ourselves more than that.