(Closed) Why DO we want to lose weight so badly? To be happier…..?

posted 10 years ago in Fitness
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I want to lost weight because i feel unhealthy, i feel lazy, and i feel unattractive. 2 kids has taken a toll on me (haha, more like a bomb exploded, my body is gone from having kids…..), like really badly! And you know, it is nice to feel like like your attractive. You know when your out and you get checked out, its nice! And I haven’t had that happen in hmm, i can’t tell you how long! Since I met my husband I’ve gained like 40 lbs, and I’m not happy about that. None of my clothes fit, and now by societal standards, i’m a plus size girl. I hate going shopping and not fitting into anything! I want to be able to go to a normal store and find some clothes. I haven’t worn a swimsuit in public in about 3 years!!! I would really like to wear one again. I also want to lose weight because I don’t want to be obese like my family. I’m on of the skinniest people in my family, and they have so many medical issues, i don’t want to end up like that.

 

Post # 33
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577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’ve always been relatively happy with my weight and the way I look; I exercise and eat pretty healthy, with some splurges here and there 🙂 However, ever since I got engaged it seems like people expect me to be actively dieting and losing weight!  Like, when I ordered my dress the consultant asked how much weight I was planning on losing (I am a street size 6)!  When I was like “uhhhh…” she said, “oh, so you’re just toning up then?”  I’m not gonna lie, stuff like that has definitely affected me; like I’ll pass up a treat or a cocktail I’d usually not think twice about and think “ok, that’s for after sept 18th”. 

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I really shouldn’t lose weight, but I always want to be skinnier. When I do lose weight, people make comments and tell me how tiny I am and it feels good.

Post # 35
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d just like to feel healthier and look a little better ;o)

I was actually heavier when I first started dating Fiance.  I think I was around a size 12 then (7 years ago) and now I’m an 8.  Fiance has lost lots  of weight since we’ve been together as well.  I’m glad that we’re committed to being healthy together.

Post # 36
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1981 posts
Buzzing bee

Lissy, that’s not a good thing… wanting to always be skinnier to get compliments, that is. I’m sure you look great as you are and I hope that if this progresses, that you seek help–it sounds like the start of an eating disorder. I’m not trying to pass judgment, I just don’t want anyone to be unhealthy!

Post # 37
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Bumble bee

@imLissy, the tiny is fine, but I hate the comments.   EVERYONE wants to know what/how/where/when/why you did it.  What a pain.  eta:  I’m already worried that I’m fighting a bit of passed-down crazy, and after years of body-crap, I do not want any more.  

I was out with BF’s family, and they were talking about plus-sized shops.  I go to tell them a story about when I shopped at plus-sized shops, and they wouldn’t let me tell my story!  Why?  “You weren’t plus-sized, what, plus for you is a 10?”.  Considering that I generally wear a 10, thanks for calling me fat.  

Boyfriend or Best Friend put on the college weight, but since I’ve been cooking the past year or two, he’s lost most of it.  Now he’s annoyed that people keep telling him that he’s lost weight.

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee

@surkim… I bet they weren’t trying to say you were fat.  A size 10 looks different on everyone.  I’m 5’7 and pear-shaped, but have really long legs, so I typically wear between a 8 and 10, and I have people guess that I’m a 4-6.  Take it as a compliment that they think you look good!

Post # 39
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1108 posts
Bumble bee

Haha, I’m certain they weren’t, I was more being grumpy towards them cutting me off than anything else.  Were I fully invested in my mother’s crazy, I would probably have gotten pretty upset with them.

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

this is a great post! i actually almost feel guilty for wanting to lose weight before the wedding, because i think the media expectations are such crap and i don’t want to buy into them and propogate them. that said, i’ve gained about 15lbs in the past year and a half when we moved in together and got our puppy, who required too much attention at first for me to have time to go to the gym. i really didn’t realize it was happening–i’m happier than i’ve ever been, and i didn’t even notice it in my perception of myself. but i’d be much healthier if i got back down to my old weight (or less–i’ve gained about 20-25 lbs since graduating from college and meeting fi). i’m not going to really diet though–i’m going to focus on eating healthier and smarter, and on going to the gym. so the wedding is just an excuse to take better care of myself, and not really the main goal.

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I enjoyed reading your post!! You’re right, why do we do this? Why do we go through so much pain & torture when our SO’s are so happy with who we are?! I am a MUCH happier person since I’ve been with him, I agree with you completely. I’ve gained about 5 pounds, but I haven’t done anything about it until now.

We’re all our own worst critics, even if people think we’re gorgeous, there’s normally something everyone wants to fix about themselves (bigger boobs, smaller nose, straight hair, etc.) & weight happens to be one of them. I know my Fiance thinks I look great, but I think he’d be even more attracted to me if I lost those love handles…& that’s what makes me want to do it. Plus, I just don’t feel comfy in a bathing suit…I live in Panama City Beach & there are TONS of restaurants off the beach here, so usually we’ll walk the beach & go to one…where everyone else is in their bathing suit, too. I just want to feel free & comfortable no matter what 🙂 I think I’d feel so much better about my body afterwords.

But I do agree with you girl, & I’m glad you posted this.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am definitely more critical of myself than others are, but I want to lose weight for my own health and happiness.  I know Fiance loves me no matter what, but that doesn’t mean I am as healthy as I could be.  I want to be in the best possible condition for when we TTC and I want to live a long, happy life with my husband and children. To me it’s not about a wedding dress or a bikini on the honeymoon. 

Post # 44
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Haha @okqueenbee: Whatever to THAT! Tongue out

Post # 45
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1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

one word: CLOTHES!!!

 I miss feeling and looking good in really cute clothes.  With my recent weight gain I feel so limited to what looks flattering on me…

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t want to be a skinny twig or anything I want to look healthy and toned and be proud of myself! I know it sounds silly to some, but I loove the feeling I get when I leave the gym! Like I’ve accomplished something! Not only that, but it gives me more energy throughout the day and motivates me to eat a little healthier during the day. Big or small I know my man will never complain but for me it’s more of a personal goal I’ve set for myself.
My grandpa died at age 32 leaving my grandma a widow, my mother without a father, and me without a grandpa. He let himself go and his heart problems and high cholestoral lead to a heart attack that took his life AT THIRTY TWO. All of that runs in the family. Even at my healthy weight my dr is always telling me to watch my cholestoral.
If he would’ve just taken the time to do a little bit of exercise and eat a little healthier he might still be here today. I NEVER want to get to the point where I’m putting my health at risk so for me I not only workout for confidence, but also to save my life!
I understand your point completely, but we should always remember that even though our men love us with a little pudge.. sometimes that little pudge could be hiding something scary inside that could kill us. Then where would your man be? Alone.

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