(Closed) Why do weddings make people rude?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@iheartyou132 – we had people who rented a party bus and got sh*tfaced on the way TO our ceremony, then RAN back to the party bus after the ceremony was over (our ceremony was a whopping 7 minutes) to continue drinking, and were flipping off our photographers while they were trying to get everyone together for photos. Nice, huh? Sorry that our wedding was such an inconvenience to your drinking schedule!  

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Mine have already started and Im not even engaged yet. When SO and I told my friends we eventually wanted to get married here are some of the things I have heard as the engagement gets closer from my girlfriends.

“He’s just a protracted rebound and your going to ruin your life”

“You can do better”

“We never thought you would ever get married”

(insert bashing marriage at every turn)

Its made me realize that alot of my girlfriends who I would have done anything for pretty much hate the idea that Im getting married (or that Im no longer single)

So when the wedding rolls around, I think I pretty much am desensitized.

Post # 21
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361 posts
Helper bee

I haven’t told anyone but my one truest, dearest bestie that my SO and I are planning to get married. I don’t want all this drama to unfold around me. He hasn’t told anyone he knows yet either. I figure when we’re ready to file his visa paperwork, we’ll announce it. 

Post # 22
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@iheartyou132: I really really want to think that, but know it wont happen- its the fact that I have someone at all, that really bothers them

*sigh* I dont get it, and frankly its perfectly fine. I have a closer group of friends now who not only respect me, but respect my relationship and my partner. Those are true friends in the end.

 

Post # 23
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834 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@iheartyou132: Holy crap that’s redonculous. Though huge events in life tend to show people’s true colors. It shows you who your real allies are… and you all are stronger and closer to eachother in the end. I’m sorry that people have said some mean things to you, and I’m sorry about the crazy lady who tried scratching a mirror with your ring… it sounds like they are just really jealous.

Post # 25
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Weddings can make anybody rude. I have never had a friend disrespect me in any way, but have had a bride who thought because she was in white she could step on anyone’s toes and not think twice of it. Yes, it is a bride’s day, but I always marvel at how someone could make someone cry/hurt them and feel they are justified because of being the bride.

Post # 26
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96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i got engaged before a woman i work with, who had started dating her boyfriend around the same time as i started dating my Fiance.  after i got engaged, she, who had demanded that her boyfriend buy her a 4-carat engagement ring, came to my office and asked to try on my ring so she could see if she “could live with a diamond that size” (meaning, not as large as she wanted).  i was too shocked to say anything at the time.  now i laugh at it.  it’s pretty ridiculous behaviour!

Post # 27
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3253 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think weddings add a lot of responsibilities, expectations, and pressures to not only the bride and groom but their friends and families. I’m not sure it’s really the wedding itself that makes people rude but rather the pressures that do so…

Post # 29
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431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Its actually interesting how it does change people. I have a sister who got extremely upset that I moved up the wedding to this year and she got physically in a fight with me from the anger she had i guess, she has not talked to me for almost a year , refused to come to the wedding and made up excuses that she cant come because of her now Fiance wont be able to.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee

yeah, i had friends who were upset that i had made plans to visit other friends [including my mister] while i was in town for their wedding. the groom even asked me if they weren’t getting married, would i had even come back into town at all. uh…does it matter?

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve been pretty lucky and haven’t had any drama but have definately read about it here on the bee. I believe people think weddings are a test of how they rank in you and your fiances “pecking” order. How important are they to you and you owe them something. Am I in the wedding? How many people can I bring? I hope you’re sitting me at a good table.

A wedding is a celebration of you and your fiances love and commitment. People should be honored to be asked to be a part of it.

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