(Closed) Why do women jump from guy to guy?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Low self esteem fuels a lot of it, and to be honest, it’s nice to feel wanted and needed even for a little while. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have no idea.  My brother’s ex-girlfriend is that type.  She is definitely that girl that ALWAYS has to have a boyfriend or someone interested in her.  I think it may be a self esteem issue.  I was never like that.  I dated my ex over 3 years and stayed single for years afterwards.  I enjoyed it very much so.  Now I’m happily with Fiance and things are even better.

ETA: My mother is this type too.  I know what her problem is.  It’s because her self esteem is absolutely horrid.  She’s been abused all of her life by so many people starting at a young age.  She doesn’t think she’s good enough for anyone, yet she longs and longs to be with someone.  She’s quick to jump into something and gets attached way too easily.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I guess I’m just a “relationship” girl. That’s how it is for me. I just like being in a relationship…having that bond with someone, having someone to talk to. I dunno.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

Usually because they don’t have enough confidence in themselves and need a man to define themselves.

My FI’s ex (who I’m vaguely friendly with) has two kids (not FI’s) and constantly bounces from man to man (often getting “engaged” to them after a couple of months) and has built up a list of exes with restraining orders but still she doesn’t stop.

It appalls me as she’s messing up her gorgeous daughters. One of them is so bright and yet her mum let’s her have sips of alcohol (the girl is only just three) and stay up all night. She’s going to end up seriously screwed up!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Just insecurity in who they are and not understanding their worth. I have a friend like this and was like this in the sense that I stayed with my ex who was no good, didn’t treat me right AT ALL, and at times was even abusive…. I just kept going back, and my friend who is still likes this has a revolving door on her guys & relationships.

I remember when my dad’s gf told me something that really opened my eyes b/c all my relationships were going the same way with the same kind of guys. She said “Well, what is it in you that is attracting that?” Yep… it was totally a “me” issue and I was ready to see and accept that. I think alot of women and even guys don’t want to see these parts about themselves so they stay in relationships to avoid dealing with it.

If that makes any sense at all. lol

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@MrsFuzzyFace: Some women just like to have the “closeness”. My sister is like that. She breaks up with someone and then immediately has a new guy. I asked her why and she just tells me “because i feel like it” lol. She gets defensive about it and in all honesty it’s her choice. I wish she would understand that she doesn’t need a guy, but I think its that she likes having someone there. I like having someone there but i’m also perfectly happy to be on my own with no one to “answer” or “explain my decisions” to.

Our mom always told us to never settle, that we deserve to be treated with respect and that we should be able to do things and enjoy life on our own. So why my sister has chosen to be a jumper, i have no idea. But she’s 19 so I figure eventually she’ll figure it out! 🙂

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace: I’ve had to block her feed on Facebook as it upsets me so much. Honestly, the girls are SO lovely that it makes me cry.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@SpecialSundae: I felt this way and I have a SON… After leaving his father I REFUSED to expose him to that kind of dysfunction. I wanted him to have the RIGHT kind of example of relationships and how a man & women were supposed to be to/with each other. Needless to say I was pretty much single for 5 years and had some pretty strict boundaries as to who DS met I only have 1 ex that DS knew.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sexy, sexy sex.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Beluga: There’s a difference between screwing around and jumping from relationship to relationship. if that makes sense. I know some people might not agree, but when I was single if I didn’t go lonely if I didn’t want to be; I took time to recover between relationships though.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@MrsFuzzyFace: Aww thanks! I just knew that I’m gonna make plenty of mistakes as a parent and if there was ANYthing I could do to not mess him up more then I was going to do that. lol. My friend’s daughter already has so many issues b/c of that and it’s heartbreaking.

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