(Closed) Why do you have to be wonderful!? It’s making it hard!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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4358 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It’s nice that your counselling has helped!!  And that everything is going perfectly πŸ™‚  Talk to SO about how nice the last couple of days have been and you really appreciate everything he’s doing. I’m sure it will alleviate all the excitement πŸ™‚

At the risk of playing devils advocate (sorry), maybe hold back a bit on setting a timescale as its only been a few days. However, seeing as you’re ring is being made, maybe it would be a perfect time to talk about when it will be finished and then what the plans are.

As for telling people: it’s only been 48 hours, and before then you say you weren’t 100% ready for it right now.  Maybe give it some time?

Hope that makes sense.  And that all goes well. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

You’ve been working so hard on your relationship, and that work has paid off!  I think that discussing potential wedding plans would only be the natural progression of things.  If it makes your left ring finger itch less, then I say go for it!

And I agree that it would be nice to have a general idea for your wedding before getting engaged.  I would imagine that it can be stressful to be bombarded with questions from friends and family when they hear the news of the engagement.  I’m all about alleviating stress. Plus, being able to mention the potential season would be nice! 

Post # 6
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m glad the counselling is going well for you.. kinda the opportunity to get things out in the open before getting into the big Marriage commitment.

Glad you realise his changes (and maybe even yours) may only be temporary and could go back to how it was before.

As it sounds like you have had a few problems in the past, you may need more time to go through this process, go to more sessions as you say to make these changes more likely to be permanent, before going to the next level of engagement.

I wish you the best of luck x

Post # 8
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834 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@claireos: Aw, I’m glad counseling has helped so far! I hope it keeps up!

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