Post # 1
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
Feel like I need some positivity. Just got into a discussion with my co-worker about why she hates Valentine’s (fake holiday, all about showing off, “saving” love for one day, etc.), and honestly, it gets kind of hurtful after awhile. Fiance and I got together on Valentine’s and consider it our anniversay day so you bet we like to celebrate it.
I hate the implication that because we celebrate our love on that day it means we don’t show these feelings the rest of the year or do special things ‘just because’. I’m not ashamed to admit that I like giving gifts and I like to get them, to me it does express a certain aspect of our love, but God forbid anyone openly express this notion without being labeled as selfish and materialistic. After awhile it becomes tiring and a little hurtful to hear how we “bought into it all” and that we’re saps for doing so.
Some people don’t like to celebrate Valentine’s. That’s great and works for them. But for bees who DO like to celebrate, please share! I want to hear about your plans, and why you DO love this holiday!
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
I love vday because I love any excuse to be sappy and extra romantic! However Fiance and I have never actually spent a vday together so we celebrate our own vday a few days early.
Full disclosure: the longer I work in a restaurant the more I start to dislike Valentines though 🙁
Post # 3
Like the pp said, its just another excuse to be romantic and mushy. Yes, yes I can do it on any day of the week…but a holiday it makes it a little more fun 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
When my husband and I were dating our anniversary was 2/8, so we never really celebrated valentines because the weekend before was already special, it seemed silly to go all-out two weeks in a row. So, I started taking Valentines as a day to tell the other people in my life how much I love them. I typically try to do nice things for the important people in my life on Valentines to remind them that they’re loved on many fronts.
For example, this year I’m having flowers delivered to my assistant (on the 13th) and I send my sister and mom a gift every year too.
Honestly, all holidays are fabricated in my opinion. Sure, some have a religious foundation but I’m not exactly sure where the stockings and colored eggs fit into the birth and resurection of Jesus Christ… except to say that commercialism has some part in it. That doesn’t make it a bad thing! No one is telling Christians they’re less sincere for having a tree; so why are lovers less sincere for having a box of chocolates?
I say do what makes you happy, and everyone else can stuff it!
Post # 5
I have always loved it. As a kid my mom would always buy little gifts and we would always have cake and a nice dinner. I also loved the school parties and making your own card box! As an adult I love to just have a chance to buy my daughter little gifts and dress her up in cute red outfits. She loves to help me make cookies for her class, it’s just an excuse to do something together.
Fiance and I don’t need a day to say we love eachother- it’s just an excuse to do something a little extra for eachother. My mom always taught me that nothing is special unless you make it special- birthdays, holidays- they are all just regular days if you don’t make them special. So I guess I’ve always tried to live with that motto to make things special. I like having fun things to look forward to, after V day, it’s Easter- sorry I don’t get that excited about St. Paddy’s day!
Post # 6
Sorry, i have to admit I’m not a fan of valentines day and we’ve never celebrated it in 10 years of being together. Having said that though, I certainly don’t begrudge anyone else who does enjoy it and I hope you all have a wonderful weekend 🙂
We actually got engaged on 15th Feb last year which was ironic as people kept calling it a ‘valentines proposal’… much to FI’S annoyance lol (it just so happened to be the first weekend we’d had off together since the new year and, as we don’t acknowledge valentines, it hadn’t occurred to Fiance that it was the day after haha)
If you love it or it’s your anniversary etc then celebrate like crazy and embrace it! Who cares what anyone else says!
Post # 7
I love it! and we dont even do anything special for it! I know some people hate it because its so ‘commercial’ etc but I think it gives people a time to really look at their life and be grateful for the relationships they have. We spend most nights watching tv on the sofa together but sometimes we are both on laptops not talking to each other etc because lets face it- life can get really busy. Valentines is a day for some quality time together.
Overall I suppose I see it as a chance to reconnect and make an effort. Of course we still love each other every day its not valentines and we still spend time together but this is like organising a family gathering for a birthday or thanksgiving- its the chance for everyone to get together with the person they love. And yes you could do it any other day but having one day thats universal is really nice in my opinion.
Maybe I just love an excuse to celebrate but if people dont like it, they dont HAVE to celebrate it!
Post # 8
We love Valentine’s Day. And we love all commercial holidays. We love to have an excuse to wrap a nice gift, buy flowers, plan a date, etc. We are together every single day and love is in no shortage. But more formal things like a heart shaped box of chocolates aren’t the norm. So it’s fun. Something different.
My Valentine’s story is that I never had a Valentine until I was married. I had tons of boyfriends in my life, I was a roller coaster dater. But come Valentine’s day I always seemed to be dateless.
It’s not hugely important to us. We just like it and have fun with it. This year we’re going out on Thursday to spend the day in Seattle at the arcade and then a dinner and show at Teatro Zinzanni. On the 14th we’re going to make our first homemade pizza…this has been on our bucket list for forever!
Cheer up OP. Some people take life too seriously and don’t know how to roll with it and have fun 🙂
Post # 9
Valentine’s Day is a reminder to me to pick up my game! It’s a kick in the pants that says – Hey! What could you be doing for Fiance everyday that you aren’t doing?
We take turns on Valentine’s Day, this year is my turn to plan something.
Other reasons I love Valentine’s Day:
It’s a day to celebrate LOVE, not romantic love. A day to celebrate family and close friends too. People seem to forget this really quickly.
We have a day to celebrate a saint who “ridded Irlend of snakes” and one that’s all about pranking people, but God forbid we put aside a day that celebrates the one thing that is a constant in our lives and has songs and sonnets and poetry and films and books written about it.
Plus, no one seems to make the same “you should be showing your love everything, you don’t need a day for it” about Mother’s Day or Father’s Day.
In closing, I that some people just aren’t into Valentine’s Day, but don’t go around being negative about it to everyone else, how are they hurting you?
Post # 10
I love Valentine’s Day because its a day to tell your loved ones you love them. I give vday cards and flowers to my grandma and sister every year. My SO and I always go on a romantic getaway vday weekend as well.
Post # 11
I love Valentine’s Day because it gives me that little push I need to be romantic with my Fiance. While I wish I was always Miss Sweetheart, sometimes I slack off a little and take him for granted. But on special days like this, I make sure to go all out and do all the things he loves! I write him a love letter, send him a handmade valentine, I’m cooking him breakfast, we’re watching all of his favorite shows, and I bought a new dress in a color HE loves and I plan to look great for him! Basically, it is a great day (and sometimes in the days leading up to it) to be extra sweet and kind and be reminded of how wonderful he is and how blessed I am to have him!
Also, I came from a family where we traded little chocolates and notes with each other too, and that’s nice so the holiday isn’t just about couples. Just a simple “You are a great sister!” note from my older brother when I was 5 was awesome!
Post # 12
I love Valentine’s day because it’s a day to celebrate that you love each other. Father’s day is a day to celebrate my father, and just because I celebrate him on that day doesn’t mean that I don’t love him any less the other days of the year. That being said, those who do not have SO’s can grow cynical regarding the holiday and some may feel a bit showy to celebrate because they recognize that many do not have SO’s. But then again, Valentine’s day doesn’t necessarily just have to be to celebrate those you’re in a romantic relationship with, but also those that you love!
Post # 13
To me, it’s just another day, one that’s commercialized for love. We love each other every day. However, it’s also the day before our dating anniversary, and we do love each other a whole lot, so it’s a fun day now.
From a sweet tooth perspective, I look forward to February 15 so that I can get all the clearance post-Valentine’s candy!
Post # 14
I get to eat a bunch of chocolate and no one can judge me for it.