(Closed) why do you want kids?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 31
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Sugar bee

I want a family of my own, and so does my Fiance. I was raised in a nuclear immediate family but a big, close extended family, so keeping it just the two of us isn’t right for me. I’d always feel like there was something missing if we didn’t have any kids. I want to be surrounded by love and happiness and fun and chaos. He wants two, I’m hoping to convince him to have a third… but we’ll start with one and see how it goes from there, haha.

Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Sometimes I think of it as the next adventure in my life. Bringing a new baby into the world with the person you love the most in the world just sounds amazing to me! 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

What everyone else said.:) I’m about to turn 43 so it will be hard being older parents but I don’t want that to stop us. I think we will be good at it.:)

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Always wanted kids. Mostly, I want a living extension of my future husband. With children I see hope for a better future. 

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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catpeaches:  My first answer will be bc when I was a little girl I always imagined myself getting married and having a family of my own. 

Now that i am an adult my answer hasnt changed much but I have an amazing husband and I knew he would be an amazing father abd together we would be awesome parents. On a deeper level, I feel like having a baby, having a child, would give me a second chance for a do over. And I dont mean that by having a chikd I wikl live my life through them, I mean that in the way that I will be able to be the mother I wish I had. I want to be able to give my daughter the love I didn’t have. My father died when I was 13, so I pray we stay healthy bc I wouldnt want my daughter to go through what I went through.

Post # 36
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Newbee

As a young adult I said I never wanted to have kids. Now that I’m older and married I have a different perspective and would love to have one child. I now realize that there were many things I didn’t have growing up, and I’d like to give my child those things and opportunities in life. And I’d like to experience that mother-child type of love.

Post # 37
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Busy bee

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catpeaches:  I change my mind all the time onthis subject! 

I used to be certain that I did not want kids. Then, once I fell in love with DH I thought “well, maybe?” and now my maybe swings from yes to no. 

One of our major reasons for not having kids is our career path, we are both very ambitious, and we live in an expensive city. Even if we had money, would we want to take time off of our careers to raise them? If we stayed in this city, would our kids end up as privledged jerks? Would we have to leave the city for them to have a “normal upbrining”. Would leaving the city hurt our careers? (It’s a viscious cycle). 

On the other hand if we don’t have kids will we regret it? Would we miss out on something that makes us feel more human? Are we our paretns only chance for grandkids? And, if money isn’t a problem, can we afford to adopt instead of having our own (something we both like the idea of doing!). It’s a lot of options.

So yeah, we flip flop on this quite a bit. 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

I want to have a child (we will likely have only one) because I want to share the amazing wonders of the world with them, teach them new things and create a strong family relationship. Both DH and I work in education and love children. 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I’ve always wanted kids. I just enjoy being around them. I look forward to teaching them, watching them grow, having them drive me crazy 🙂 Childhood is truly a magical time, and I’d love to watch our little ones experience it. I want to raise them to become respectable adults with all the opportunities in the world.

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