(Closed) Why do you want more than one child?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I do not have any children yet, but I know that my parents didn’t want an only child- so I could have a sibling, learn to share, have a playmate, etc. My birth/pregnancy was planned, but it was a very difficult pregnany/delivery and I came very very early. My mom was not too keen on doing that all over again, but she really wanted me to have a sibling. I don’t think it was a wake up one morning sort of deal, but something she had generally always hoped to have.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t have any children, but I know that I want multiple children because I loved growing up with a sibling. Two of my best friends were only children and they have always expressed wishing they had someone around to play with, talk to, ask advice, etc. I honestly cannot imagine growing up with just my mom and dad. Don’t get me wrong, I love my parents but a sibling just makes life more interesting and less lonely! I want my children to have life long best friends and people they can always count on no matter what if something were to happen to my Fiance and I. I love my brother more than anyone in this world and I honestly know my life would be completely different if I didn’t have him in my life. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My son will be 4 in August and as our wedding is in June, FH and I are IMMEDIATELY getting busy hahaha. I have always wanted a large family, I come from a larger extended family (my brother and I are the only 2 in my family) and it was just never a concern. I am the oldest cousin, and my family goes in ranges from 27 (me) to my cousins 3 month old daughter. There are 6 grandchildren and 6 great grandchildren in my family–27, 24, 23, 18, 15, 10, 6, 4, 3, 2, 1, and 3 months. SO. I never have truly thought about it!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My first wasn’t planned either and he is now almost 3 as well. I started having baby fever around his 2nd birthday so we waited until the wedding to start trying. We also knew our little one would be such a great big brother. When I was younger and childless I figured I would either have 2 children or none at all. I feel like my siblings are the greatest gift that my parents could have given me so I really didn’t want to have just one child. 

We get enough back with our tax return with having another dependent to pay for all the extra child expenses throughout the year so we can put quite a bit aside for college.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I want a couple of children (2-4) but the final decision will be made when the time comes. Mr Rugbee & I both agree that children benefit from having siblings. They have someone to hang out with & learn from. We both really appreciate having siblings. Most of the single children I know are super spoiled/selfish but that’s a bit of bad parenting aswell.

I also find the idea of having a bunch of kids apealing cause you get to see the full range of possibilities: I’m confident that Mr Rugbee & I will be good parents & I want to see all directions our children will take. I’m curious what kind of people we would raise.

The last reason for which I want to have a couple of children is a bit, well… unconventional. I listened to a lecture a few years ago about how, due to demographics (particularly that traditionalist religious sects have more children per capita), there is a serious risk that western society will desecularise in the next 2 generations… I want to do my part for my cause!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@aliavenue:  I’d have to call her to find out exactly what was going through her mind in the 80s haha. But I think they just always wanted more than 1, could afford it (I mean, my dad had a good/steady job, made enough that my mom could stay home or work parttime). She had me at 29, my sister at 32. If it were earlier in the night, I’d call and ask! But I think they planned on 2… my dad built our house before either of us were born and made sure there was room for 2 🙂

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@theredhead:  That is so wonderful you have that sort of relationship with your brother. My sister and I… well… she is three years younger but has a lot of growing up to do…still in a sort of teenager phase, and my maturity apparently is a threat, since I’m “against” her. Sigh. I hope as she matures our relationship will improve!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

I have always wanted 3 kids and I come from a family with 3 kids.  Fiance wants 2 kids and he’s from a family of 2 kids.  I think part of it is what you get used to.

I think it’s important for children to learn alongside other children and I believe siblings help with social development.

Also, I would love to be blessed with both a boy and a girl to raise, for a variety of reasons.  I haven’t really thought about it beyond that!  I just know I would like more than one.  🙂

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Because I want more than one kid. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I want to have more than one child because I want my kids to have siblings.  I love my sister and brother so much.  My brother was my best friend growing up, and having siblings taught me a lot of lessons.  My sister has been there for me when no one else has, not even my parents.  I think I would have learned the same lessons in other ways, but I like it this way.

I also just plain want more than one.  I don’t know why.  I always have.  So we’ll see how it goes.  We’re kind of “go with the flow” when it comes to kids, so we may TTC once and then just let ourselves be surprised later.  Or maybe we’ll end up being surprised before we TTC and never end up trying.  Maybe I’ll have my first and decide I’m done, lol.  Raising multiple teenagers at once sounds like the ultimate challenge, but I never back down from a challenge.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I want more than one kid because I don’t want my child to have the “only-child syndrome”.  I know kids without siblings have a harder time adapting to other kids, vs adults. 

Also, (this is the main reason), I know as a kid I probably would have been bored out of my mind without my siblings.  Kids need someone to play with. As a result, it gives mom a bit better of a time (when they aren’t fighting) becasue she isn’t the one playing with them all the time if they have each other.  A sibling bond is a strong one – I don’t know what I’d do without my sister!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@HappierKate:  my siblings and I were 18, 16. 14, and 12. My parents must really love a challenge!

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