Here are some of mine, some are more trivial than others-
-The biggest one of course is I love this man. We love each other. And getting married feels like what you should do when you want to be with someone the rest of your life.
-It formalizes our commitment for ourselves, and legitamizes the relationship to others. This is important now when we’re young for people to take us seriously, but moreso when we have kids I don’t want them to be stigmatized for having unmarried parents
-“Boyfriend/girlfriend” doesn’t adequately convey how serious we are about each other. You can’t distinguish with just that label the difference between us and 2 14 year olds who’ve been dating 2 weeks. I like to say “life partner” sometimes but it’s so cheeseball when I do. I want him to be my husband.
-It would reduce conflict with my family, it’s my life and my decisions, but if I can reduce stress by doing something I’d like to do anyways, all the better
-It offers legal protections or conveniences to us and our children, for stuff like if one of us is sick or when we buy a house
-It makes good sense for finances and insurance
-I’m ready to stand up in front of everyone I know and announce my love and devotion to this person (ie a wedding) Also, I’d get a kick out of planning
-I think there should be forward progress in a relationship, and this is part of it
-I think it will make us closer
-I don’t see a big reason not to
I feel like these totally aren’t all of them, and are mostly the relational ones. I feel a really deep need to form this union with him out of love, and I don’t know how to describe that besides as “I just want to” but that is the main reason, these are just backups