(Closed) Why do you want to get married?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We got married for a few reasons.  We both wanted to make a special commitment to each other, beyond just the assumption that we will stay together.  I think the idea of marriage just felt extra special and bonding to both of us, and we wanted to outwardly show our dedication to our relationship.  I think it also has a feeling of official-ness since it is a legal commitment, and made us really feel like we were becoming a family.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We did it because we loved each other and were ready to make the commitment legal. Our finances were already entangled and we lived together. You’re not really not your significant others “immediate family” unless there are legal documents.

  It was also done because my husband was granted a military commission  and it made sense to tie the knot before he left and reap the benefits of being a dependent (health care, housing allowance, etc..).

After it was official:

 The benefits were wonderful. But what’s more wonderful is a sense of.. it’s difficult to explain. I don’t want to say security (I never thought my husband would leave me).. it’s just a nice feeling to be married. I think it really cemented our relationship.  And society takes you a little more seriously. Girlfriends are disposable.. wives require paperwork to get rid of.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think we probably got married because that’s the expected next step. We wanted to have children and I feel like it’s important to committ to eachother for life in order to show children what healthy relationships are like. Darling Husband came from a divorced home and I also think seeing my family and the way that everyone stays together was something that he wanted to be a part of. Out of 35 marriages in my family there is only 1 divorce. Everyone has been married forever.

It’s cheaper to be married. All kinds of things have big discounts if you’re married. Our combined car insurance is now less than just one of ours.

I know my reason probably aren’t the best, but Darling Husband and I were already in love and living together. The only thing that marriage really changed was my last name.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I wanted to make that commitment to him in front of my family and friends, to help hold us accountable and hold a party to celebrate a unique transition in our lives .  A way to really invite each other to be part of one anothers family but at the same time signify that we are starting our own family.

And marriage has only brought us closer together.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@maureen9004: totally agree about society. There’s something that makes people react differently when you say husband instead of boyfriend

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

@mwitter80: I’m embarassed to admit I’m totally guilty of this now that I’m married. Whenever I meet a couple who are unmarried I tend not to take them as seriously as I do married couples. I totally get why people are passionate about marriage equality- society places a lot of importance on it.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Security.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I want to get married because I love my Fiance.  I want to get married because it seems to be a whole different level of commitment.  We’re pretty conservative and won’t live together/combine finances and all that until we’re married.  People also take your commitment to each other more seriously and respect that.  I also agree with @maureen9004 in that until you’re married, if your SO is in the hospital or something serious happens, nobody really cares who you are until your title is “wife.”

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

The legal benefits of marriage were really important to us – being able to make medical and financial decions on the other’s behalf were huge. Emotionally, it feels like a “settling” of sorts – comforting and secure in our committment to one another. I feel like it really cemented our “us against the world” mentality, which is amazing.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think we’re getting married because we know we want to be with eachother forever and can’t imagine life without eachother.  We have been together for almost 5 years and we want to have kids, have grandkids, go on vacations, and grow old together.  I guess we just know… The fact that we get to have an awesome party and a nice vacation afterwards is just a bonus!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My reason will probably sounds silly or “immature” hehe When I was a teenager I never gave boys a second thought, didn’t really start dating till I was almost 18 and by then my mother had become handicapped and I was one of her main caretakers. I feel horrible about saying and thinking this, but I felt like taking care of her was my main priority and my love life was not going to happen. Needless to say I had a few dates but nothing. My mother passed away in ’08 and I was so sad and lonely.. That fall I decided to go back to school and by sheer coincidence I met my SO online at a hobby forum.. lol

When I felt like he was the “one” it was like realizing a dream of being with someone and living with that person. Making a life and planning a family, which is something very important for both of us. Its hard to express how important and very high I hold marriage and that bond you make to each other. I guess since my mother passed I want someone to have and to go through life with.

p.s. On a side note I seen your post about having a rough day and I hope it gets better 😉 I too am a waiting bee, not as long as you but, I understand the money situation holding it back. I wish the best for you!!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honestly? I guess mostly because we want to have children in the next few years and Fiance wanted to be married before starting a family, so we’re getting married.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@iheartnerds:  I LOVE your username lol I had ” I <3 NERDS ” as my background on my cellphone lol

I’m dating the biggest nerd hehe

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