- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
Basically, My FI makes twice as much as I do, I love my job and would hate to give it up, but basically we have 3 options when it comes to daycare.
1. We find a family member who would/could be willing to watch our kids for free or at a very low cost.
2. I quit my full time job (teaching) to stay at home with the kid, and work my retail job on nights and weekends.
3. I get a higher paying full time job.
Option 1 – of course is my favorite option, I wouldn’t have to sacrifice my job or career, and its doable my sister is currently a stay at home mom. I am sure we could manage to pay her a little bit as well, only down fall is that she lives an hour away from us.
option 2- I love my job and really would not enjoy having to give it up. It would be difficult to get back into my career once I left, and I would have to maintain my professional development hours to keep my certification which would also cost us money. And with retail I always worry that I wouldn’t get enough hours to cover the cost of my car payment and student loans.
Option 3- I get a higher paying job. I am a certified Physical Education Teacher, most schools in my area only have one Physical Education teacher and at the elementary level the kids only have PE once a week, so I currently work full time for a contractor that private schools hire, so I work at 5 different schools, I’m at one school each day of the week. I have been trying for years to get a full time position at one school but its been impossible.
I mean things could change for the better like FI student loans could get paid off and than obviously that would change things. I guess I am really just frustrated that I will have to sacrifice my career to be a mother. Not sure its fair to relay on family to watch our kid for free, and its unlikely that I will succeed in my dreams of getting a higher income. I am sure my company would be willing to take me back after being a stay at home mom, but I worry that there will be no work for me, and worry that I won’t get enough hours at my retail job.
We aren’t planning on having kids anytime really soon, but FI and I discussed it tonight and these were my/our options, he said I didn’t need an answer right away and it was just something to thing about.
err…I don’t love any of these options. Option 1 I think is clearly the best, I know he has also expressed interested of moving closer to my family when we have kids.