Why does everyone have to have an opinion

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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1365 posts
Bumble bee

Why are you sharing this information with them? If anything, say, “we booked x venue and are so excited!” End of discussion. 

Personally, I wouldn’t be discussing the wedding with them at all unless they were all invited. 

Post # 3
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235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Girl everyone will have an opinion. How does that Saying go? “Opinions are like buttholes…..”

Bottom line is, yes they will always have an opinion. It’s up to you to make the decision whether you will care or not. 

Post # 4
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235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

farmfreshjoy :  I second what you said. I used to work with this guy that shared SO MUCH detail about his wedding and quite frankly no one cared bc whenever he would talk we would all start turning away and looking at our computers….

Post # 5
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee

what do you want them to say? “that’s nice, dear”

Post # 6
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1005 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

waiitngbee86 :  people can have a lot of opinions about weddings, just don’t tell them anything! That’s how I found my way out of it. I wouldn’t make it a vocal point of conversation and id change the topic of I didn’t like where it was going.

I also didn’t want people that were invited to the wedding to know a lot about it in the first place. I wanted it to be a surprise.

Post # 8
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812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

Stop talking to people and telling them your ideas. There’s always going to be someone that has some negative to say about you or what you are trying to do. I learned to keep my mouth shut and plan according to the vision of myself and fiance’. I don’t talk to my coworkers about nothing that I have going on.

Post # 9
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1919 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

waiitngbee86 :  This is just the beginning. Every detail of your wedding will be picked apart by anyone. This is why the above Bees suggest to not share. You can still respond to their questions but keep it vague. Honestly Bee, you will be given so many opinions. Responding to their questions is opening yourself up to their opinions. 

Coworker: “Wheres the wedding?”

You: “Oh, we are still early in planning, we have looked at several and will make our decision soon. Thank you for asking”

Seriously, if this one opinion is bothering you… you have so many more coming. They are invited, not paying for the wedding. They can see the details when they get the invite or arrive for the wedding. =) 

Post # 10
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9172 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

that’s why i kept all detail between myself, Darling Husband, and my mom.  the only ones involved in planning.  i didn’t care about anyone’s opinion.  anyone asked me anything, i said you will have to wait and see.

Post # 12
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

If you like the venue you should go with it. And yes, everyone and their mother will have an opinion on the wedding. Sadly that’s just what weddings are like – so many people get super worked up about and have something to say.

Post # 13
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251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Smile, nod, change topic! Stick to your guns Bee!

 

Re. dress shopping – mum/FMIL/MOH/BMs (depending on how many you have) would be my suggestion. Maybe if you’re very indecisive, take just mum +/- Maid/Matron of Honor and narrow your choices down to a few that you really love before bringing the whole crew in?

 

Post # 15
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251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

waiitngbee86 :  Good choice! I prefer a small group too – I hope it goes well 🙂

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