Post # 1
Lately I’ve been feeling a little anxiety about things going wrong on the wedding day – missing items, late guests, issues with the music – typical things… My boss asked how things were going so I expressed this to her.
She told me not to worry – that nothing will be perfect, for example at her wedding:
1.) 10 of her guests got in a car accident on the way to the reception from the ceremony, literally 5 minutes away – all were okay but her close high school friend totaled her car and there was a big empty table at her 100 person wedding because they were all at the hospital…
oh and 2.) one of the catering staff literally had a heart attack in the kitchen and the cops, ambulance, fire and rescue squad showed up and went right through the reception and carted her out (thankfully she was okay too!)
And my mom just told me that someone trying to help her sister get dressed, punctured their hand on something and then bled all over her wedding gown……awesome
Needless to say…I appreciate their help…but I don’t really feel that much better! lol!
Post # 3
When people tried to tell me bad stories I tried to take it as “Things can go wrong, but you will still end up married.”
Post # 4
I think people just want you to prepare yourself mentally that things may go wrong but it doesnt matter.
Post # 5
@bells: Exactly — and I think there’s also an element of “if I tell you the things that went wrong at my wedding, you can better prepare so the same things don’t happen to you!”
Example: at my sister’s wedding, their unity ceremony was almost ruined because neither bride nor groom had told anyone setting up the room that their unity candles needed to be at the front. Only at the last possible moment did the groom peek into the room and go ‘holy sh*t where are the candles???’ Lesson: always take a quick look and make sure everything is where you expect it to be before you walk out there!
And my boss said her husband gave HER a copy of his vows to make sure they made it to the ceremony, instead of bringing them himself. She forgot them and he ended up having to wing it. Lesson? If YOU need it, YOU bring it! And make sure your Fiance has theirs as well!
I think these people think the horror stories are comforting, like no matter what it’ll never be as bad as the time XYZ happened. Meanwhile, I just prepare myself for a situation where an entire bottle of wine gets spilled on my dress and I have to get married in sweatpants. Will I still be a beautiful and gracious bride? Hell yes I will!
Post # 6
I’m afraid that there will be a fire drill, and my newest worry is if our officiant is late. Ugh. I guess there are things out of our control that aren’t worth worrying about…we can only make the best of it!
However, my worry did inspire me to request that the venue extend our reception if any unforseen issues arise (ie: fire alarm, etc) to make up any time lost by those intrusions!
Post # 7
my brother got married outside…my other brother (the best man) dropped the ring when he was supposed to hand it over. All my brothers (the groomsmen) were in the dirt trying to find it for about 20 seconds! It made for the cutest pictures. Then my brother who dropped it faked a little /spit shining and handed it over! It was the cutest screw up I’d ever witnessed and made for adorable pictures!
Post # 8
I haven’t gotten any wedding horror stories, but when I was pregnant I got a lot of birth horror stories. Same situation, just different events. All the stories did was serve to make me more nervous, but I think the people intended to help. Like ohers have said, it’s to prepare you for things that could happen or to say ‘look, it can’t be as bad as this thing that happened to me’.
Post # 9
Very true, I will now appreciate the stories as no matter what, at the end of the day, whatever happes, you’re married!…..
I did hear one more yesterday – a co-worker is going to a wedding this weekend where, a few weeks ago the bride stepped awkwardly off a curb and shattered her ankle – metal pins, fuil cast to her thigh – and is being wheeled down the aisle…
I’ve decided to where flats as much as possible until the wedding just in case (also considering throwing salt over my shoulder too)
Post # 10
@Miss Orchard: Why would there be a fire drill?