(Closed) Why does going out seem less appealing the older we get?

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
4232 posts
Honey bee

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Repetitive activity. If it’s a passion, you’ll want to continue. If it’s just a pastime, not so much.

Just my $0.02.


Post # 3
471 posts
Helper bee

I feel the same, and I just turned 25 in Nov. Sometimes as soon as I have plans with someone, I’m so excited about it, but the day before or the day of going out I start hoping the plans fall through or I get cancelled on and when it does happen I feel so happy it’s like really pleasant news lol. But it has nothing to do with not liking the person I’m going with and I never regret actually going out. I don’t party though, unless going to a baptism or 2 year old kid’s party counts. That’s all the partying my fiance and I have been doing.

Post # 4
451 posts
Helper bee

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Mlim:  I’m in the same boat. 26 and so much happier staying home in sweats watching a movie than going to a club. Tonight I went out to dinner with a friend, we picked up dessert and brought it home and watched law and order svu…. perfect night 😉

Post # 5
1706 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s exciting when it’s new, and you’re having first time experiences and fewer cares in the world. 

“Been there, done that, had the hangover, etc.” seems to be the thought that comes to my mind. 

Post # 6
32 posts

I think it’s a priority and lifestyle change.

If you’re genuinely happy with where you are at, why would you go looking for something else?

I caught up with a bunch of married with kids friends last weekend and they asked me what I was doing that night and when I said “probably cooking dinner and watching Harry Potter” – they seemed so disappointed like I wasn’t flying the unmarried and childless flag for them!

It made me laugh but I’m exactly like bella above – I work too hard to do something with my spare time I don’t actually love doing!

Post # 7
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

In my 20s I could knock back the drinks and wake up the next day fresh as a daisy.  I tried to relive my glory days Wednesday night and am currently on day two of an epic hangover.  Did anyone know a hangover could last more than one day?  Going out is a lot less fun now that alcohol is poison.

Post # 8
2963 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

going out was never that appealing to me, haha. i’d do it for friends or family, but i’ve never been one of those people who was like, “yeah! night club! bar! drinking! parties!” the few times i have gone out, i was ready to come home after an hour. i’ve always been an old lady, haha.

Post # 9
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

One of many reasons- At home a beer from at home is about $1, at a local bar $5 and at the club $8. My couch is comfy at home and I can wear pjs, I have to dress nice to going so far to wear heels depending to go out, drunk people at bars are annoying and it is way to loud at the club. Meh, husband and dogs are much better company than all that

Post # 10
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I Don’t like going to clubs anymore or dingy bars, I’ve done that, ruined the shoes, worn the inappropriately tight clothing, made out with a stranger and been too hungover to move from the couch for an entire day the day after. I agree with the others some of it is about first experiences and then they get old. For me it’s also due to the fact that I have very few friends in the town that I live in so if I’m travelling to see my friends I want to be able to talk to them, which you can’t do in a club. I don’t see them frequently enough to give them a quick hug and then proceed to shout at them over music all night. My husband has never really been one for going out clubbing but I’d much rather spend an evening with him at home watching a movie or in our favourite restaurant.

ETA: I had three glasses of wine last night and I have a hangover, I don’t want to imagine what would I would feel like if I’d actually been out. 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by loz24.
Post # 11
4229 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’ve always hated bars and clubs, but I think it just feels like a waste of money after a while.  Why pay over $10 for a mixed drink when you can mix it at home for 20% of the cost?  Why spend time with drunk people who have no boundaries when you can be comfortable at home?  Why spend time in the club where you can’t hear what anyone is saying when you can have a normal conversation over beer or wine at home with the same people?

I enjoy pubs where there is live music and a relaxed atmosphere.  I enjoy trivia.  I HATE going to a loud bar or club when I can’t hear anyone and the drinks are way overpriced.

Post # 12
4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m 30. Been there. Done that. COMPLETELY OVER IT.

Also, hangovers SUCK. And i can’t recover anymore like I used to.

Post # 13
1246 posts
Bumble bee

I must be the complete opposite of you guys.  Since I wear scrubs all week at work, I like dressing up (nothing fancy, but nicer than scrubs) and going out.  My ex was a real homebody and I got excited if we had plans to actually go out.  For me and my friends, going out doesn’t always mean to a bar or club though, although we do like to hang out at Buffalo Wild Wings or this one particular sports bar.  I don’t really drink so my tab is always on the low side anyway.  I guess I’m not over it.

Post # 14
346 posts
Helper bee

27 turning 28 and I’m still not over it. We still go out one night a week whether it’s individually or together. One weekend night is enough to let loose and enjoy ourselves without wasting the weekend (We’re actually heading to a boozey brunch followed by a festival and an early hh today). I work long hours, I give everything to my job Monday through Friday… Friday night through Saturday night it’s time for my less polished, professional alter ego to come out. Yea hangovers suck as you get older, but I drink a bit less, have pedialyte and Tylenol waiting on my dresser. I’ll continue to be a weekend warrior for as long as I can. 

Post # 15
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

This makes me feel so much better. I’m 29 and for the past two years all of my desire to go clubbing and drinking has gone. I love staying home, having some friends over to watch a movie, or just hanging with Fiance on my couch. I still enjoy meeting someone at a classy bar for drinks, or other fun activities, but all of my friends go out multiple times a week, stay up drinking all night – it’s like a non stop party for them and it has started to make me feel lame but it’s just exhausting! Glad to know I’m not the only one 🙂

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