why does he keep coming back when he doesn't want a relationship?

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
1273 posts
Bumble bee

Because it’s an easy fallback on something/someone he knows. 

Post # 3
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Ugh. Because you let him.

Ive had lots of men like this in my life. They kept popping up saying all the right things and then failing to live up to it.

Have enough respect for yourself to block him and move on. You deserve and will find better.


Post # 4
3271 posts
Sugar bee

He is a sadistic asshole that enjoys keeping you on a string. Block him and move on. 

Post # 5
1115 posts
Bumble bee

Does this man have a chocolate flavored penis or something?


… in all seriousness, I would stop torturing yourself with this, Bee. He won’t change. He keeps coming back because you keep making yourself available. His motives are what they are, and you’re not privy to them, but he clearly gets what he wants, then disappears. Rinse, repeat. 

Post # 6
579 posts
Busy bee

He likes the attention. Block this MFer and don’t give him another half-second of your brain space. Seriously. 

Post # 8
244 posts
Helper bee

You’re an easy fallback, you’re letting him back in, he likes to stir shit up, etc. It doesn’t really matter what his reasoning is; stop giving him the chance. 

You block him and he makes another page and reaches out? Block him again. Block him on everything and don’t engage.

Post # 9
3438 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

This is never going to become a fulfilling relationship. Stop wasting your time and energy on this.

Post # 10
143 posts
Blushing bee

Ahhh man. My ex was like this until break up 3 when I was absolutely done with it. It’s total mind f**king at it’s worst. And not only that, but I’ve had another guy be like this with me over the course of 5-6 years. It wasn’t until this year that I realised how selfish he was and how naive I’d been. 

Now I’m with current boyfriend and he has been the most consistent guy I’ve had in my life. No messing. No bulls**t. Just straightforward and easy. 


You need to wake up. End it. Cut it out and bury it. Then tell yourself it’s not healthy and that you need to respect yourself more so you can find a man who will also respect you. 


Good luck Bee x

Post # 11
3736 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

Sorry OP, his guy has shown you who he is multiple times. It’s time to believe him. He keeps coming back because he knows you’ll take him back, then he disappears when something new and exciting comes along. You deserve better than someone who wants you when he cant find someone else that week!

Post # 12
13590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

He comes back because you let him. Get some self-respect and cut this loser once and for all. 

Post # 13
4791 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Usually it comes down to sex, sorry to be so blunt. He gets lonely and you’re available. 

Post # 14
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I wish someone had told me this when I was younger, chances are I would have not listened to him/her, but I am truly hoping you do. 


For your sanity, do not fall back in his trap, please. When you do meet the person that you will marry, I promise you it will be smooth sailing! Stop being his default girl when hes not in a relationship or is bored. YOU deserve much more than that!

Post # 15
6594 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Bluntly, every time he leaves it’s because he’s found some other woman To bang. Every time he comes back it’s because he lost her or got bored and wants to bang you instead. Get rid of him and get some self respect. Good lord. 

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