Post # 1
My ex and met on faceook 8 years and we hit it off. However, after 5 months he broke it off because he felt like we don’t live within reasonable distance to support a relationship. We live 4 hours away from each other of driving distance. We still kept seeing each other because we couldn’t let it go. Then he ended it again because he lost feelings. We ceased contact only for him to repear stating he misses me then we started seeing each gain. He went cold again and ended it again for the same reason, the distance. We would reconnect and hangout over a period of 3 years untill things started going downhill.
He started bailing out on plans to meet and he bacame distance. Then he claimed he lost his job and can’t visit me. He withdrew but i kept contacting him and he ended up telling me that he needed space. i reached out again after 2 months only to learn he met someone local. I decided to move.
Then he reached out again and we reconnected. It became a wash and risnse repeat cycle. He would reach out stating he misses me. Once the ecxtiment wears off goes cold, bail on our plans to meet in person. Risnse and repeat. I finally had enough last time when he dropped me because of the same reason, distance and ignored my attempts to contact him. We didn’t talk for 4 years because I deactivated my face book profile and changed my number. He had no way to contact me.
I recativated it this year and within a month he opened a new face book account and messaged me claiming he has been looking for me all these years and he feels like he is dreaming. he misses me alot.And left his number to message him. Can things work out this time around? I had forgotten about him but hearing from him brought up old memories. I haven’t responded. But the curioisty is getting the best out of me. Has anyone had that ex that wouldn’t stay gone? We haven’t seen each other in person for the last 5 years because everytime we make plans he doesn’t follow through. something always comes up
Post # 2
Because it’s an easy fallback on something/someone he knows.
Post # 3
Ugh. Because you let him.
Ive had lots of men like this in my life. They kept popping up saying all the right things and then failing to live up to it.
Have enough respect for yourself to block him and move on. You deserve and will find better.
Post # 4
He is a sadistic asshole that enjoys keeping you on a string. Block him and move on.
Post # 5
Does this man have a chocolate flavored penis or something?
… in all seriousness, I would stop torturing yourself with this, Bee. He won’t change. He keeps coming back because you keep making yourself available. His motives are what they are, and you’re not privy to them, but he clearly gets what he wants, then disappears. Rinse, repeat.
Post # 6
He likes the attention. Block this MFer and don’t give him another half-second of your brain space. Seriously.
Post # 7
i just find his behaviour odd considering the fact that he showed little to no interest last time we reconnected. his first contact was on skype in January. i blocked him. Then he opens a facebook page staing he missed me. A month later he opens another page with different name and left his number to text him. He also video called me on it but I wasn’t logged in
Post # 8
You’re an easy fallback, you’re letting him back in, he likes to stir shit up, etc. It doesn’t really matter what his reasoning is; stop giving him the chance.
You block him and he makes another page and reaches out? Block him again. Block him on everything and don’t engage.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
This is never going to become a fulfilling relationship. Stop wasting your time and energy on this.
Post # 10
Ahhh man. My ex was like this until break up 3 when I was absolutely done with it. It’s total mind f**king at it’s worst. And not only that, but I’ve had another guy be like this with me over the course of 5-6 years. It wasn’t until this year that I realised how selfish he was and how naive I’d been.
Now I’m with current boyfriend and he has been the most consistent guy I’ve had in my life. No messing. No bulls**t. Just straightforward and easy.
You need to wake up. End it. Cut it out and bury it. Then tell yourself it’s not healthy and that you need to respect yourself more so you can find a man who will also respect you.
Good luck Bee x
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Sorry OP, his guy has shown you who he is multiple times. It’s time to believe him. He keeps coming back because he knows you’ll take him back, then he disappears when something new and exciting comes along. You deserve better than someone who wants you when he cant find someone else that week!
Post # 12
He comes back because you let him. Get some self-respect and cut this loser once and for all.
Post # 13
Usually it comes down to sex, sorry to be so blunt. He gets lonely and you’re available.
Post # 14
I wish someone had told me this when I was younger, chances are I would have not listened to him/her, but I am truly hoping you do.
LET. HIM. GO.
For your sanity, do not fall back in his trap, please. When you do meet the person that you will marry, I promise you it will be smooth sailing! Stop being his default girl when hes not in a relationship or is bored. YOU deserve much more than that!
Post # 15
Bluntly, every time he leaves it’s because he’s found some other woman To bang. Every time he comes back it’s because he lost her or got bored and wants to bang you instead. Get rid of him and get some self respect. Good lord.