Post # 1
Okay, so I’m confused.
I keep seeing all over the boards that bees are sending out invites months and months in advance. Why? All of the etiquette and books that I am reading advise 6-8 weeks before the big day. This, also, does not take into account the RSVP deadline date. I can understand 7-10 weeks, but 5-7 months? The only reason this would even make sense would be if it were a destination wedding. But, honestly, if I ever got a wedding invite 5-7 months in advance I would be like WTF?
Explain ladies because I just don’t get it.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Maybe they’re afraid their guests will be invited to multiple weddings on the same date?
I don’t get it either. I’d send (I did send) save the dates a few months ahead of time (we had a decent amount of out of town guests, and I wanted them to have time to make arrangements) and save the invites for 6-8 weeks.
Post # 4
I’ve been noticing that too and wondering if it’s because people want plenty of time to be able to send out B list invites? or if they’re wanting to skip save the dates and save money so they’re sending invites early? I’m planning on sending mine out about 2 1/2 to 3 months before and I keep wondering if that’s too early.
Post # 5
@amw511s: im sending mine out 4 mths before….i know my family…and i need to give them at least 2 mths to RSVP.
i think alot of brides are doing it early to be more prepared. times have changed…wedding have become way more expensive. just getting all our ducks in a row 🙂
Post # 6
I sent mine 4 months out because we got married this past March. I didn’t want my invites to get lost in the holiday mail shuffle, so I sent them out I think a week or two before Thanksgiving.
My RSVP date was also 2 weeks earlier than the standard 1 month before the wedding because I didn’t want the added stress of tracking down negligent guests right before my wedding. I wanted extra time and I am sure glad I gave myself some extra!
Post # 7
One reason that I have seen is that lots of bees have 2 lists of guests. A A-list and a B-list. They send the A-list out early so that when they get RSVP’s that decline a invite, they can then send a invite to someone on their B-list So then you give the B-list group time to decide themselves.
Not sure when I plan on sending mine yet. We’ll see.
Post # 8
I sent mine out 3 months in advance because 90% of our guests are Out of Town. I do not appreciate when I am invited to an Out of Town wedding and only have a month to take off work and make arrangements. If I put in leave only a month ahead of time, it will be denied. I just wanted to make sure that the majority of our guests could make reasonable flight, hotel, and rental car arrangements without fear of taking time off and not being able to take leave.
Post # 9
I’m not sure..I stuck with the old fashion 6-8 weeks.
If someone was worried about other peoples wedding…send out a save the date or something?
I freaked out when I just sent mine out last week and most the girls in the November boards already had RSVP counts.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Zama Beach Club, Isla Mujeres, Mexico
We are having a Destination Wedding and I am hopefully gonna get mine out within the next couple of months. So we will be about 4 months out! Not sure if I apply though since its a destination wedding…
Post # 11
do people worry that by sending out invites so far in advance some people will forget to attend and be no shows???
Post # 12
We are having a Destination Wedding aboard a cruise ship and due to regulations from the Department of Homeland Security, I need the full name, birth date and passport or license # of every guest who intends to come and that information is due to the cruise line three weeks before the wedding. Since it will take a little time to get that information and imput it into a spreadsheet and many of our guests have to travel we are sending them out twelve weeks before the wedding.
Post # 13
We’re sending out our invites 4-5 months before b/c we decided to skip sending save the dates; we want to give people enough time to make the necessary travel arrangements.
Post # 14
@Mrs.Darling: Well, yes. That make sense b/c it’s a destination wedding. But, I have been seeing a lot of board posts lately about invites for non-destination weddings being sent out 4-7 months before the big day. It’s just seems so anticipatory. I just feel like my guests would think I’m waaaay eager. I dunno.
Post # 15
We didn’t have enough time to send out Save-The-Date Cards and invitations, so I just sent out invites 4.5 months in advance.
Our wedding is also extremely close to Christmas, so we had to give people a head’s up. Plus, about 15% of our guests are international and sometimes mail takes a long time to reach another contient.
Post # 16
@amw511s: I know what you meant–I too, would be incredibly weirded out if I got an wedding invitation 5-7 months in advance for a non-DW.