(Closed) Why does my FI get 2 weekend getaway bachlor parties???? I am NOT ok with this

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@mandilynn0804: Why not just be upfront and honest with your FI?  Tell him you don’t like it, aren’t comfortable with it, etc and say you don’t want it.  (I’m sure a lot are gonna flame for me that, but it’s how it works with MY Fiance and ME.)

Just be ready to have good logical reasons why you aren’t comfortable, don’t like it, etc.  Even if it comes down to “fairness”.

good luck and sorry you gotta deal with this!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Zinzerena: agreed. Just discuss it with your Fiance.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The only thing I understood from your post is the title. Frown But I agree with Ryna. Just be up front with your fiance.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Zinzerena: this is exactly what I would do. I’m not afraid to flat out tell hubs when something is not ok

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If its a surprise, why dont you just talk to the best man about it?

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@mandilynn0804: I think your only option is to address this with the best man, since its a surprise to your Fiance. Explain to him that since now everyone can meet in Vegas on Thursday, your Fiance won’t be able to make it to the other weekend, since he runs the business and has a family. If he still acts like he doesn’t care, then maybe talk to some of the other guys and see what they say. Last resort – tell your Fiance, but risk the Best man being mega pissed

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The part I think is the worst is that the Bridesmaid or Best Man is inviting his friends! This party should be about your Fiance and having the people who he is closest to there.  I would talk with Bridesmaid or Best Man and let him know your concerns and address the issue with Fiance if it can’t be solved from there.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I’m confused. Are you mad because he is having two bachelor parties? The guys are coming in on Thursday, so his second one would be then right? And that was your only request. I think I’m missing something.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@mandilynn0804: Ok I understand now. I think you should let him have his two parties. One is with closer friends and it’s just a “whatever” trip. The other is his bachelor party. Even if they were both bachelor parties, I still think you should let him do it. Maybe tell him not to binge drink all the time… but definitely don’t dictate what he does, when, and where. Compromise is a great thing! Letting him have fun with his friends before marriage is a great thing as well. I just don’t see the issue.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I guess I don’t see what the big deal is if he has two.  I mean if he does the New Orleans thing, which presumably has begun to be planned since October is not that far away, what do you want him to do on Thursday night before your wedding while you’re out partying?  Sit in the hotel room?

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