(Closed) Why does my FI get 2 weekend getaway bachlor parties???? I am NOT ok with this

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 17
8 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sounds like the best man is being selfish. It seems like he is planning events for himself. Who cares if he “doesn’t know” the other groomsman “HE” needs to remember that a bachelor party is for the Groom not the best man, and when you are planning a event for someone the only persons feelings who need to be considered are for the person being celebrated, not the host/bestman.

People fail to realize that just because a person is getting is getting married and deserves “Their last single night out” we still have responsibilities and in this case the Groom is a business man, a father of 2 very young children, and financial considerations (it doesn’t matter if the best man is paying for everything).

Have you talked to the other people he has invited to see where they stand on him excluding the other groomsman, the grooms friends, and future family? They might be able to help you convince him that as a Best Man he is taking the wrong approach. 

Im so sorry you are going thru this along with all the other planning and frustrations you must be dealing with.

Post # 20
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why don’t you and your Fiance just declare the Vegas party a bachelor party?  Who died and made the best man party boss and his is the only “official” party?  Let your FI have 2 bachleor parties, ask the excluded family/WP members to plan the vegas party and if Best Man chooses to sit in the hotel lounge and watch the game, let him (and let him look like the dick if he chooses to do so)!  You’re stressing over a minor issue darling! Just explain to all your people when they complain about not getting an ivite that the New Orleans trip is NOT his official bachelor, it’s just a boys weekend away (or a penis flexing party or whatever lol).  Assure them there will be a bachelor party as planned in Vegas and they are all welcome.  Problem solved.  And if Best man bitches, tell him to put on his big girl panties and get over it.  He sounds like quite the asshole, and if anoyone in my FI’s party tried it, I’d have stepped in long before now and blown the surprise, especially if there were so many excluded that should not have been. 

Post # 22
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Why not have a joint party Thurs night? Just tell Fiance you want to be together and don’t want to split up all your guests 2 nights before the wedding.

Post # 24
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know you said one is supposed to be a surprise, but I think you should tell the best man that you are getting a lot of stress about this so you plan to tell Fiance about it and let him decide how he wants to handle it.  Then the parties can happen as Fiance wants to have happen and you stop guessing and being caught in the middle.  If Bridesmaid or Best Man is truly upset about that option, then insist that he decide whether he will 1) cancel the surprise or 2) invite the buddy he doesn’t know (I’m less stressed about the assorted others, but it is rude not to invite the odd man out groomsman).  If he doesn’t do either option, explain you’ve got a lot of wedding stress now and they should plan their guys weekend sometime after the wedding, because that’s what it is at that point.

ETA: I see you figured it out, even if I don’t understand at all what the solution was.  That’s great.

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