Post # 1
Is this a regional thing? Because I’m mightily confused by all the “no no no” I’m hearing about this, when practically every single wedding invite I remember my parents receiving to weddings (I haven’t been to that many other than my cousins, but my parents get invited a fair bit) have registry info in them. My stationery quote even includes “Custom designed stationery suite to suit your wedding, taking into consideration venue, colours, themes, flowers and any other relevant details of the day. Invite suite: includes invite, RSVP card, and gift registry info card, postcard or square size.”
Can any other Australian brides help out? Because what I’ve experienced irl and what I’m hearing on the hive are massively clashing here!
Post # 3
@goingtotherooftopoflove: I can’t speak for Australia but in the US it’s considered rude to include registry info with the wedding invitation (some people still do it anyway) because it’s a way of asking for/ expecting gifts. This information is usually spread through word of mouth or a bridal shower invitation. The bridal shower is more of a registry gift giving occasion.
Post # 4
It’s just kind of a faux pas since gifts aren’t supposed to be mentioned or assumed even though most people bring them anyway. Bridal shower invites are a good way to convey this info
Post # 5
Thanks for the comments 🙂 I’m guessing it might be a regional thing. I know that there are some customs etc that are very different between the US and here. In my experience people here prefer registries as it makes it easier!
We’re going with a registry that collects a large variety of brands (they’re stand alone, rather than associated with a store). It gives guests the option of collecting the gift from the store or ordering it online and having it delivered with the others. It seems like such a common thing here I hadn’t even though that it might be considered rude! lol. I’m mystified and now slightly worried 😛
Post # 6
@goingtotherooftopoflove: Registry or wishing well info in invitations appears to be the accepted norm in Austrailia. Since your in Austrailia, it’s fine. include your registry.
Here in the US, it’s considered asking for gifts and that’s not considered proper here as a general rule – there are a few places that registry info is common accodring to some Bees. Sometiomes US brides put registry info on their wedding website and put the wedding website in their invitations, that bit of separation seems to make it more palatable.
Every country has their unqiue wedding traditions and rules. The registry etiquette rules are one of those things that varies.
Post # 7
In Australia it is perfectly normal and acceptable to include a registry insert in the wedding invitation. Every single wedding bar one that I have been to has done this (either registry or wishing well card). It is expected here. No one does the ‘word of mouth’ thing and get’s their family to spread the word amongst everyone as to where the couple is registered.
The difference may be because we do not generally have bridal showers in Australia that you register and receive gifts for. Most couples also do not have wedding websites here where that information could be put. Therefore the registry/wishing with the wedding is totally expected with the wedding invitation and guests want to know about it so they can plan accordingly.
Post # 8
In general, I’ve heard Australians are much more upfront and direct than Canadians (and also Americans). Some of what is fine there, would be seen as rude here. I haven’t been there to see this for myself.
My guess is this extends to registries.