(Closed) Why does she have to think the same month?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

All I can say to you is the most important thing is that you are marrying the man that you love and thats all that matters.  Plan your day exactly the way you want it and the enjoy it with your family and friends that will be able to make it.  Sometimes life sucks but we just gotta keep it moving

Post # 4
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hmm.  Okay, and this is the child speaking in me, but my suggestion is to loudly say to her and family that you booked for your intended October date, and then when she copies you, let her find out via STD when it is too late that oops, it is actually in September 2013.  Again, the child in me, but hey maybe it would teach her a valuable lesson.

Post # 5
28 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ick, I’m really sorry to hear about your situation…  

Have you tried talking to her about it?  Maybe she doesn’t even realize that what she’s doing is hurting your feelings.  Just let her know that although you are happy and excited for her, it would mean a lot to you if she chose another time to get married and you hope she can understand that…

Good luck!

Post # 6
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What are your parents saying about the date thing? I would think it would be weird that they would support her booking the same month as you. It’s stressful on a family to have ONE upcoming wedding, let alone two. Unless your parents are not involved in helping with your weddings?

My brother got engaged ver quickly after me, and both my parents were vehement that we needed to have a few months buffer between the two. We had 3 months between, and I still wished they would have booked theirs for 2012. It was a lot of work and stress on my mom. I imagine 2 daughters would be much more work.


Post # 7
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Talk to her and find out why she is thinking october 2013. Waiting until may 2014 is a loooong time. maybe she simply does not want to wait. maybe there is something going on in her FIs family that is influencing her decision. maybe there are career implications or something. You’ll never know until you ask. And if it is that important to her, you haven’t booked a venue or anything, so where is the harm in you being flexible?

As to the FB album name and picture taking style, unless you did something SUPER unique, you may need to get over yourself. Lots of people take photos from similar angles and use typical naming conventions. She may not have been “copying” you at all, and things just happened to end up very similar.

Post # 9
3943 posts
Honey bee

Well, both your weddings are a long way away, so who knows what dates will ultimately be booked.

I know people always say “the bride only gets one day, not a week or a month’,but in the case of immediately families that is totally different. Maybe once your sister starts planning a bit more and actually look at places, she will change her mind. But really, since neither of you are planning to wed until 2013 she really should be able to find a different date that isn’t so close to yours.

Post # 11
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Maybe approach this headon and tell your immediate family (including your sister) you are booking October 12 for the following reasons XYZ.  Ask them how they will handle it if your sister chooses to book the same month – will they be able to handle the finances, the logistics etc?  Could they begin to save now for that possibility?  If she does, there’s not much you can do to change it, but spread the word fast and far once you’ve booked the venue.

Post # 14
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Have it whatever day you like -I’d probably avoid giving your sister a heads up on the date though. She sounds spoiled, entitled, and attention-grabbing. It sounds to me like she wants to do what she can to turn take the thunder from your wedding. Don’t let her. Go on about it like you don’t care – she’s looking to get you riled.

Post # 15
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

2013 is a long time away. I wouldn’t get upset over anything wedding related this far in advance. Ultimately you can not control how other people ( even family) behave.. you can only control how you react. Plan your wedding and go about your business and keep wedding talk with her to a minimum. 

Post # 16
1327 posts
Bumble bee

I honestly would start keeping quiet about any of your wedding plans, she can’t copy what she doesn’t know about. Wedding invitations only have to go out a few months in advance, she doesn’t need to know anything until then.

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