Post # 1
My sister recently got engaged, on Christmas. I was soo excited, thought that we would be able to plan things together. I feel like im starting to regret the fact that we are engaged at the same time. They went and got a ring that looks so much like mine, i took as a complamint. Its starting to become annoying. She took her pics the same exact way I did, and used the same Album title I did. Let me have something of my own for once. Its not a compition at all, this is supposed to be fun!!
I guess what is getting to me is I got engaged 3 months ago, my family could care less, and its the best thing ever for her. I asked her when she was orig planning on getting married and she said May, 2014… Now she is talking October 2013!! Thats when I plan on getting Married, we are booking the Venue next week. I know that If she planns her wedding in the same month all my family will go to hers, because its more convient… Ugh, why does she have to be this way? She knows we are talking October, 2013 she has known the last 3 months!!
Post # 3
All I can say to you is the most important thing is that you are marrying the man that you love and thats all that matters. Plan your day exactly the way you want it and the enjoy it with your family and friends that will be able to make it. Sometimes life sucks but we just gotta keep it moving
Post # 4
Hmm. Okay, and this is the child speaking in me, but my suggestion is to loudly say to her and family that you booked for your intended October date, and then when she copies you, let her find out via STD when it is too late that oops, it is actually in September 2013. Again, the child in me, but hey maybe it would teach her a valuable lesson.
Post # 5
Ick, I’m really sorry to hear about your situation…
Have you tried talking to her about it? Maybe she doesn’t even realize that what she’s doing is hurting your feelings. Just let her know that although you are happy and excited for her, it would mean a lot to you if she chose another time to get married and you hope she can understand that…
Post # 6
What are your parents saying about the date thing? I would think it would be weird that they would support her booking the same month as you. It’s stressful on a family to have ONE upcoming wedding, let alone two. Unless your parents are not involved in helping with your weddings?
My brother got engaged ver quickly after me, and both my parents were vehement that we needed to have a few months buffer between the two. We had 3 months between, and I still wished they would have booked theirs for 2012. It was a lot of work and stress on my mom. I imagine 2 daughters would be much more work.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Talk to her and find out why she is thinking october 2013. Waiting until may 2014 is a loooong time. maybe she simply does not want to wait. maybe there is something going on in her FIs family that is influencing her decision. maybe there are career implications or something. You’ll never know until you ask. And if it is that important to her, you haven’t booked a venue or anything, so where is the harm in you being flexible?
As to the FB album name and picture taking style, unless you did something SUPER unique, you may need to get over yourself. Lots of people take photos from similar angles and use typical naming conventions. She may not have been “copying” you at all, and things just happened to end up very similar.
Post # 8
My parents will only pay for her wedding, and will have no part in paying for my wedding. SHe has always had things handed to her, and I have always had to pay for things. I know they are not paying for her entire wedding but a few thousand.
She doesn’t work she Lives with my parents and helps take care of the kids that they just adopted. He just started a new job. IT had nothing to do with any arrangments for either family. Her and her Fiance ann is in Novemeber, theres nothing special to them at all for the month of October. We are choosing October because that is when we got engagement, and its the month my now Fiance met, and had stated dating in. Also, has meaning to him the day we are talking about his Grandparents had gotten married on so its special to him (saddly both grandparents had passed).
The FB pictures, I had included a few things with my son. My Fi had given the ring to our son, and he had walked over and given me the ring. I thought it would be cute to incule a pic of him holding the ring, and she had one of the kids do the same thing.
I have tried to make suttle hints that it is bothering me, but she acts like it is nothing. I dont want to be bitter about the situation, and I dont want it to seem like I am jelouse… Im not, I wanted to try and plan things together, and all she says is “tough”
Post # 9
Well, both your weddings are a long way away, so who knows what dates will ultimately be booked.
I know people always say “the bride only gets one day, not a week or a month’,but in the case of immediately families that is totally different. Maybe once your sister starts planning a bit more and actually look at places, she will change her mind. But really, since neither of you are planning to wed until 2013 she really should be able to find a different date that isn’t so close to yours.
Post # 10
I should say the wedding day for his grandparents was October 12, 1940
Post # 11
Maybe approach this headon and tell your immediate family (including your sister) you are booking October 12 for the following reasons XYZ. Ask them how they will handle it if your sister chooses to book the same month – will they be able to handle the finances, the logistics etc? Could they begin to save now for that possibility? If she does, there’s not much you can do to change it, but spread the word fast and far once you’ve booked the venue.
Post # 12
I know that both the weddings are a both aways away. I dont wanna say things have to be MY way, I dont expect it to be. This a date we chose cuz the month and the date is special my Fiance. I know its not my day, its special to both so I want to include him as much a possable. I just know that if we both have our weddings in the same month, that my family will not be at my wedding and I don’t think that its fair to me.
Post # 13
My family and my sister know the date for XYZ reasons, after we were engaged they asked if we had a date in mind. We told them the story of his grandparents and why we were choosing the date. They all thought that it was cute and very touching that we had decided to get married on their wedding date. My sister and family know, that I am already working the the STD cards.
Post # 14
Have it whatever day you like -I’d probably avoid giving your sister a heads up on the date though. She sounds spoiled, entitled, and attention-grabbing. It sounds to me like she wants to do what she can to turn take the thunder from your wedding. Don’t let her. Go on about it like you don’t care – she’s looking to get you riled.
Post # 15
2013 is a long time away. I wouldn’t get upset over anything wedding related this far in advance. Ultimately you can not control how other people ( even family) behave.. you can only control how you react. Plan your wedding and go about your business and keep wedding talk with her to a minimum.
Post # 16
I honestly would start keeping quiet about any of your wedding plans, she can’t copy what she doesn’t know about. Wedding invitations only have to go out a few months in advance, she doesn’t need to know anything until then.