(Closed) Why does this bother me so much?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@allyfally:  I know that looks are not supposed to matter, but they do. Would you show up to a job interview looking like farm help? NO.

Try telling him how much it would mean to you, and how important it is for him to wear his nice clothes when you go out, and make sure you sincerely tell him how nice he looks and how happy you are. If you pay special attention to him, hopefully he will start to get that it makes you so happy when he dresses appropriately.

If that won’t work, keep a “nice” outfit for him at your place (or in your car), so when he shows up dressed inappropriately, you can tell him to change (and assuming he would be uncomfortable when he realizes he’s severely underdressed, you would save him some embarrassment).

My Fiance used to do this, I guess he just grew out of it. But he showed up for a nice dinner wearing dress pants, nice shoes, and a ripped t-shirt with a giant logo on it several times before that.

Post # 4
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Fiance does this as well. I had to start going to his house first, picking out an outfit, and making sure he put it on. After a couple years he’s getting better, and now when I tell him we’re going somewhere he says “So i’m guessing I have to wear nice jeans, right? Not basketball shorts? Button down shirt? Can I at least wear tennis shoes?” He’s starting to get it… 

Post # 5
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My FI’s the same way. My way of getting around it is to say “you should wear a collared shirt” for some reason he GETS when I say that it means needs to wear something nicer (plus it rules out any kind of Tshirt) but he doesn’t get offended –

Post # 6
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My Fiance sometimes talks as if he wants to act like this, and I give him that look >_>… hell naw. all I can say is that all of you ladies are very nice, and very patient. 


@allyfally:  There is NOTHING wrong with expecting your hubby to be an appropriate +1 to you by dressing like an adult when the occasion calls for it, period. InaTizzy gave great advice, but I would step up the firmness a bit on this. Don’t act hesitant or unsure – let your man know what you want and expect on this one girl. Best of luck to you! 

Post # 7
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Fiance just gets the death stare until he changes.. He dresses nicely most of the time, but I can’t stand him wearing his gym sneakers with jeans.  He tries to get away with that one all the time.  And cut off shirts.. hate those!!

But I agree, nothing wrong with being disappointed.  He told you he would dress up and he didn’t.  And you want him to make a good first impression.  It’s understandable.

Post # 9
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I personally don’t see anything wrong with jeans and sneakers BUT not for a nice dress up occasion. Nuh uh.

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