Post # 1
Pretty much everytime my Father-In-Law tells a story, he exaggerates or embellishes it in some way. It is made worse by the fact that Father-In-Law mostly just tells stories, we rarely talk of current events or work/interests; its coffee and 3 hours of rediculous stories. Darling Husband just blindly accepts everything he says and then after, I am like WTH?! Then he feels like I am being critical of his dad who is his hero. So, I have been trying to bite my tongue, but by the end of a weekend of visiting, I am ready to blow.
What I don’t know is why this bothers me so much? Like, what is it to me if he says that the pope isn’t catholic and that he jumped off a million foot bridge when he was 20.
Any words of wisdom or advice on keeping my blood pressure and urge to argue with him at bay?
Post # 3
Just smile and nod. Some people are who they are and will always be that way no matter how infuriating it may be. I know how hard it is to be passive, but it isn’t worth the fight. Sorry, he doesn’t sound like good company!
Post # 4
Have you ever seen the movie Big Fish? Your Father-In-Law sounds a lot like the dad in the movie. If you haven’t seen it I would definitely recommend it! I think its a great movie. (And it might help you understand him) 🙂
Post # 4
smile… while thinking he is older than you, he will die sooner than later
sorry – this is what gets my husband through dinners with my mom
Post # 5
He is a one-upper too, which I think is the most annoying part.
They live 4 hours away, which means we don’t see them all the time. But when we do, it is concentrated visiting, not just pop in, hang out for a bit and leave.
I guess I just need to practice my patience and try to ignore.
Post # 6
@SarahSmilesDec28: It could be worse. Some Future In-Laws are bigots and racists. Who cares if he tells tall tales. Just think of him as a story teller, lol-get a kick out of it instead. My daughter is a fun story-teller– she doesn’t embellish–she clearly tells extremely tall tales for fun, which she calls “true story”-and yes, they are truly stories, lol. Although maybe extremely gullible people believe them. 😉
Post # 7
@MissBoPeep: I will have to check that out! Any insight would be valuable at this point.
@eloping: I will admit I have that thought, then feel terribly and horribly guilty, since Darling Husband worships the ground the man walks on.*
*Maybe this is why it bugs me so much? Darling Husband, an otherwise sensible and intelligent man just goes right along with it…
Post # 8
@creativeplannertobee: Oh, he is extremely religious (old-school Catholic) and makes his share of closed minded and “traditiona values” (botterline biggoted) remarks too.
Offff, it actually feels better to even just vent a little, since I can’t complain to DH!
Post # 9
Yep, smile and nod.
These people don’t even realize they are stretching the truth because they do it so often and for so long.
Sing songs in your head, write poems in your head, take control of the conversation, whatever!