(Closed) Why doesn't anyone else care?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
Member
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

leslie.fatz:  Some of the most oft repeated advice here on the bee is “No one will ever care about your wedding as much as you will”. It’s sad, but also true. It’s such an exciting, important time in our lives, and of course we have SO much to do/plan/stress over, and to be honest, who wouldn’t really want the people they love to care, and want them to WANT to be involved. Unfortunately, life isn’t fair, which isn’t fair, obviously, but the only advice I can offer is to realise that this is something YOU can do. You can look back with real pride that YOU planned, and YOu did that. And if people show an interest, great! It will feel all the more special. One last thing though, have you tried telling people how you feel? Sometimes that’s all it takes. You just need to ask. And if not, us Bees are always here to help!

Post # 3
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7432 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You are indeed being unreasonable. It’s your wedding and no one is on the hook to help you (or even offer) except your Fi. it doesn’t mean that your friends and family don’t love you. They just don’t love wedding planning and DIY crafts.

Post # 4
Member
14976 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sure everyone is happy for you, and everyone will be thrilled to be there to celebrate, but no one is going to care as much as you for the planning and things leading up to that day.  It’s just the way it is.  Everyone else has life of their own too.

Post # 5
Member
8686 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

What is it that you want them to do less yet to travel hours to come and do? I can understand being a bit disappointed in your mom but the others….no. As for your Fiance he SHOULD help. It’s his wedding!

Post # 8
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2087 posts
Buzzing bee

leslie.fatz:  Why do they have to drive up to support you though? I personally wouldnt want to drive 8 hours in day just to follow you around and tell you my thoughts. I can do that over the phone, and wouldnt have to take a day off work for it. 

I think you’d get a lot more “help” when you stop expecting people to stop their lives to come with you on fairly mundane wedding planning things. Why does anyone need to go with you on a hair trial? They’d just be sitting there watching you get your hair done…

Post # 9
Member
7432 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It doesn’t matter. You can’t demand moral support. It sucks but it’s part of life: accepting that some things, you’ll just have to do on your own. Plan everything like you’re the only one involved. If someone decides to tag along, that’s great but you should set your expectations low so you won’t be disappointed.

Post # 11
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2255 posts
Buzzing bee

Eight hour round trip to taste cake? Yeah….no, thanks. 

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