Why don't I remember my wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Recaps
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

renwoman:  maybe you were so excited and your nerves were shot from all the planning and stress that you can’t remember? 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Our wedding was just this saturday. A few friends posted some pictures and i honestly do not even remember the conversation. i think it is very normal.  The whole day goes by so incredibly fast.  

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

renwoman:  There’s so much stuff that I don’t remember at all either.  It’s a blur! A great blur, but a blur all the same!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

renwoman:  That’s why you hire a photographer! :-p

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

renwoman:  Probably because most brides describe that their wedding day goes by in a flash.  Not only are you basically hosting a huge party for all of your closest friends and family, you’re also committing yourself to your significant other, which carries a lot of gravity and emotion.  Don’t worry – The details were blurry for me too, but things started coming back after a little time had passed.

Also, not sure if you are, but I’m an anxious person and had anxiety on my wedding day.  I found that the anxiety and stress of the wedding planning stayed with me for a few days after the wedding.  You may be going through something similar. 

Congratulations on getting married!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I think it’s just so overwhelming that it’s difficult for your brain to form memories because there are no calm moments to process what’s happening.  I remember particular flashes, but all in all it’s kind of a blur for sure.  The photos will definitely help : )

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

renwoman:  I don’t remember a lot of my wedding. Like, I started crying and didn’t want to so halfway through the ceremoney I started looking out the window instead of at my DH. Then there are parts of the reception that I see pictures of but don’t really remember. I don’t even remember getting our couple’s pictures done, and that was just us and the photographer. I mean, I remember generally, but I don’t remember what we talked about or the order we did them in or anything. I think it’s because the whole day is so emotional and you’re worrying about details and everything being perfect and your brain gets overloaded. At least that’s what happened to me.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

renwoman:  My grandma doesn’t remember any of her wedding and she never did (its not an age related loss of memory lol). She says she remembers leaving for the church and bits of the reception. My mom also said she doesn’t remember a lot of her wedding, just bits of it. 

Personally I think it can be such an exciting and overwhelming moment that you just black out from the intensity! I’m sure the photos will help jog your memory a little bit, view it as a good thing – you were so overcome with emotion your brain couldn’t process how happy you were 🙂 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I don’t remember a lot.  Of course, in my case, it could have been the champagne while I was getting ready.

I suspect it’s quite normal.  It is just a big jumble.  I think we go into overwhelm mode.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think this happens to a lot of people. I don’t remember much of my wedding day either and I thought it was down to the anti-anxiety meds I was on, but since then loads of people have remarked about how everything just goes by in a blur, even my mom. I was complaining that I should have taken charge and done this or that, and she said something about how everything just goes by so fast that you don’t really have time to think rationally. It’s true. Think about it–you’re making a huge commitment and then everyone expects you to be sociable and and play the wonderful hostess…you just don’t have the luxury of reflecting on everything at leisure and committing it to memory. I felt like a robot–say vows, take pictures, do dance, cut cake, say “Thankyousomuchforcoming” forty million times. Thank goodness for pictures; otherwise I’d be wondering what the heck just happened!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

renwoman :  I know this post is two years old, but the same thing happened to me.  I got married about 3 weeks ago and remember almost nothing from my reception and very little from the day.  I’m actaully feeling really sad that  I don’t remember more since I made it a point NOT to drink too much. 

Now that it’s 2 years later  are you “over” the dissapointment of not remembering more?

Post # 13
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Wannabee

mrsrekraps22 :  

Hi,

The exact thing happened to me and I’m feeling really sad about it too! Your wedding was 10 months ago – just wondering if it’s better for you?

 

xxx 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

honeybee8 :  honeybee8 :   

 

 Disclaimer I am using speak to text as I  nurse my one month old baby 🙂   So there’s gonna be a lot of run-on sentences

It got a little bit better emotionally once I saw our pictures and  our video and saw that I was having fun at the reception (  The part I don’t remember)… but it still sucks I don’t remember a damn thing from the reception :(.  Mostly it’s the anxiety of not knowing or remembering what the  atmosphere was.   Everyone tells me that they had a good time but of course no one’s going to tell you that it was lame, that there were slow periods, or  if  the DJ was awful.     Pictures and videos are great but of course it’s from the fun moments of the reception they’re not going to capture any boring parts  

I  Actually think about it often… maybe it’s because I watch too much say yes to the dress?   Ha ha.   I’ll get a wave of anxiety because I don’t remember and then I just have to remember to look at pictures or look at our video and that I was having fun and the most important part is the actual wedding ceremony was great and perfect and I married to my husband 

 

 When was your wedding?  Do you not remember the whole day or just bits and pieces? 

Post # 15
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Wannabee

mrsrekraps22 :  

Congratulations on your little baby

My wedding was nearly 2 weeks ago. I remember everything up until after the first dance. It was like my memory went blank instantly after that. There are a few things that I remember though that stick out in my brain but that’s it. It was like I was in a foggy cloud!

I have seen a few videos from later in the night and it looks like I am having the time of my life but I just don’t remember it which upsets me so much. I just wish I knew who I did and didn’t get a chance to talk to. I don’t want my guests to think I was being rude if I didn’t get the chance to say hi. I have been told like your wedding that ours was a total blast and lots of fun but I wouldn’t know!

I remember everything about the ceremony and like you said that was the most important part 🙂 I’m looking forward to seeing the wedding video so I can piece things together. 

Regarless, of what my guests at my wedding say and my husband says I’m still so highly anxious about it all 🙁 

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