(Closed) why don't people like games?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: do you like games
    love them! having them at my wedding : (39 votes)
    26 %
    they can be cute but we're not doing them : (38 votes)
    26 %
    i hate them at others weddings and i wont be having any : (72 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 4
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    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I will probably have at least something like that. My desire to be fancy is strong, but I’d rather people just have a good time. I wish there was a way to get an arcade setup.

    Post # 5
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    516 posts
    Busy bee

    I like games!

    I love formal weddings too, but I never understand why people want such stuffy atmospheres, and then get touchy when guests just eat and leave!

    When I get dressed all the way up, I want to party, and games help set a fun tone, imo.

    Post # 6
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    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t think one game is too bad, like the shoe game. But I honestly think it is more fun to have a reception where there is lots of dancing and good food. =) 

    Post # 7
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    814 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’ve never been to a wedding with games… makes me think of a kids’ birthday party.

    Post # 8
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    7977 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I want to provide croquet and giant jenga. I have a small reception space and it might be hot in summer. People will want to take breaks and wander around the lovely grounds for a bit, and croquet will also allow the ones who don’t like music and dancing to socialise! Also, the games are good for the kids.

    Post # 9
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    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @photogestelle:  Totally agree!

    I just feel like “cutesy” games make it feel more like a birthday party vs. a classy wedding. To each their own though. 

    Post # 10
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    2587 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    @Rachel631:  +1

     

    I’m looking to provide a selection of ‘giant games’ for people who don’t like dancing, and for the kids – giant jenga, giant connect 4, and maybe some tabletop games as well.

    Also, since we’re getting married in Autumn, FH really wants to try and organise stuff so people can play conkers too, which would be so much fun, and I’m well up for that.

    But things like the Shoe Game or whatever… They seem to me personally 1) a little self-obsessed (why do all my guests care who got what grades in high school?) and 2) even more boring for guests because they just have to sit and watch and are a ‘captive audience’. I’d much rather promote a relaxed atmosphere where people can have fun talking, dancing, drinking, eating and playing games!

    Post # 11
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    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have social anxiety.

    Games are kind of a nightmare to me. 

    Give me an opportunity to do something dumb and embarrass myself, no matter how small… I will find a way.

    Post # 12
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t like being forced to do any kind of group thing.  Any organized group thing isn’t fun to me.  I like to do my own thing.  I like dancing and eating and drinking, not being forced/ organized to do any specific thing.

    Post # 13
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    404 posts
    Helper bee

    I don’t like games that you have to particiapte in. But having the option is great! As long as there’s somewhere for people who don’t want to play to sit.

    Post # 14
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    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    That seems more appropriate for the bridal shower or bachelorette.

    Post # 15
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    380 posts
    Helper bee

    @mrsztobee:  We wont have games, but are definitely doing bouquet/garter toss! Also, I’m hoping to hire a magician to roam around and entertain and possibly a charicature (sp?) artist. I’m hoping most people will be up and dancing but I’m considering having a games table and giant lawn jenga and badminton? SO and I both love badminton, so we’re hoping to have that atleast! 🙂

    Post # 16
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    6345 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I don’t like them, for a few reasons.

    1) I think they’re juvenile; the last time I went to a party with games I was 11, and even then I felt too old for it.

    2) I think they can make people feel uncomfortable if they’re the type of thing where everyone has to join in; not everyone likes this type of thing, and your guest’s comfort is paramount.

    3) I think they can get boring. I’ve been to parties where they’ve got guests involved in lengthy quizzes, and it bores me to death. If I wanted to sit doing a quiz for 2 hours, I’d go to a pub quiz. At a party, I like to be able to have fun and chat to people, and have a dance, not sit around in silence doing a quiz.

    4) I think they can make things disjointed, as you get groups of people playing games, and then an empty dance-floor with no-one wanting to dance.

    5) I find them a kind of ‘forced fun’, especially if it’s kind of compulsory to join in.

    6) A well-organised party with a good crowd of people shouldn’t need games to give it an atmosphere. We host a lot of parties, and the atmosphere is always great, as we think carefully about who we’re inviting (people that will get on well even if they don’t know each other, a balance of ages and personalities, etc), and also VERY carefully about the music. Get the music wrong for your guests, and that’s when you run the risk of everyone sitting around awkwardly. We take our guest’s tastes into consideration and then mix things up eg if we have 10 younger people into chart music/RnB, and 50 older people, we might play one recent song for every 4 older ones; that way people tend to stay on the dancefloor.

    The only ‘game’ we’re having at our wedding will be a mock photo-booth which we’re setting up for about 45 minutes during the evening reception, primarily because we want some fun pictures.

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