- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I am having a wedding this January, and I am very excited about the idea of doing a potluck reception in the basement of the church where my fiance and I are getting married. I want the wedding to be informal and fun, and I thought one way to do that would be to have everyone bring a dish instead of a gift. My fiance and I are going to get a bunch of food, too, like a bunch of sandwiches or something from a deli (or a huge sandwich from Subway?), and we’ll have a cake and provide hot chocolate, coffee, and warm apple cider. I have no doubt that there will be plenty of food to go around, and everyone local that we’ve invited will bring delicious things, I am sure.
The problem is, no one else seems to think a potluck reception is as fun or inviting as I do. Several people (my sister, dad, futuer mother-in-law, etc.) have expressed lots of concerns, such as
–How we will keep the food warm if people bring it before the ceremony and it just sits there for an hour or more before we eat it?
–What if there is not enough food?
–Who is going to do the dishes afterward?
–What about out-of-town guests (my fiance has lots of family in Minnesota) who cannot easily cook something or pick something up at a grocery store?
–It’s easier to write a check than it is to bring a dish; people might resent being asked to cook something.
–Everyone’s going to be so busy the day of the wedding, no one will be there to coordinate the potluck and it will be chaotic.
Those are some of the concerns people have, and I know that they are valid worries, but I also think that there must be ways of dealing with those issues while still having a great potluck reception. My question to the hive is how do you do a potluck wedding that is not too stressful for guests and is organized enough that the day of the wedding isn’t one big, stressful mess for everybody? Any thoughts or ideas would be so helpful. Let me know what you think. Thanks, bees!