(Closed) why don’t people want kids at the wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 79
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@MightySapphire: That cat looks so much like Keith Richards, it’s scary.

Post # 80
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Honey Beekeeper

I’m still not sure why no one is responding to the reasons posted like…

  • Cost
  • Space
  • Behavior
  • The bride & groom not having close relationships with children.

I personally think those are legitimate reasons. Not “appalling” and not “Bridezilla.” And really not all that “selfish.”

Post # 81
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@grenadine: I don’t want to get into a fight on the internet (as it is a completely pointless excercise) but I made a half-joking comment about not wanting people cooing over a flowergirl at my wedding and now I’m unsheathing my claws? Please.

Post # 82
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@Gemstone: I think they’re perfectly legitimate. Not wanting kids at a wedding/reception does not mean you’re selfish or demonstrating “appalling” behavior by any means.

Post # 83
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m not sure why so many people feel like bickering about silly things this week, but can we agree to disagree on this one?

For those who want to invite kids to their wedding, that’s wonderful, and that’s your choice. But for those who choose not to invite kids, it’s also a choice on the part of those hosting the party.

Let’s keep this away from personal attacks or general rudeness, please. I know you’re all capable of being better than that.

Post # 84
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Don’t care if there are kids or not but I HATE when babies start crying and interupt the service! Take the wailing little one outside!

Post # 85
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think what we’re talking about here is the result of a cultural shift as well as a basic difference of principle. The camp of “this day is about our union” and the camp of “this day is about our families and the community”. Both are correct, both are okay, and I think things are being taken a little too far here.

Post # 86
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Bee Keeper

I would agree that most of the reasons cited are not selfish.  You know what’s selfish?

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@EmEv:I agree with this. My FI and myself already have a child and my FI also has an 8 year old sister from his Moms second marriage. I myself have a large family with lots of kids though his is much smaller. I have 9 cousins between my two Aunts, ranging from 6-19. I cant imagine not having the younger kids there. They are all very well behaved.

Though I have extended family and friends as well who have children. But I am not going to be extending inviations to their children. I know that my friends with childen wont even for a second think of anything other than getting a sitter. I am the same way. We havn’t thought once about bringing our son with us to a wedding. Thats an event I rather enjoy as an adult night out. Wheather there are kids at weddings or not, doesnt bother me because I dont have to watch them. But I do agree that children can change the mood of a wedding if people are seping all over them constantly.

Post # 89
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

for me personally, I don’t care if the kids run wild…

my sister and I ran wild at quite a few weddings and those are very good memories for us.

 

It just depends on the people, I guess. and the venue…

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