- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I didn’t purchase my own and neither did my sister. I said she ordered hers on ebay.
I said I found one and Fi and I went to look at it and bought it.
In both instances our fi’s paid. Mine had started saving and in all honesty I didn’t see the point in saving a bunch. I found a sufficient ring very cheap and would rather see any money saved go to other things.
I did agree to an upgrade at some point. (We will see about that I’m happy with what I got. Yes I love everyone’s ring on here and still love ring porn. Also I’m soo indecisive about what I like it it changes daily. So I got what I got. I mean I love rose gokd, I love white gold, I love sapphires, I love diamonds, I love moissanite, I love morganite, I love halos I love three stones, I love…blah blah blah basically everything but a solitair!..my looking at rings was just confusing him anyhow..lol.
So it was like…here just get this. Boom done. Money saved, I get to stop looking and being an idiot. (I’m not saying everyone else looking is an idiot..I’m saying with how often my mind changes on what I like I’m an idiot.) In reality I just need tons of money for other rings so I can change my rhr’s or middle finger rings like my attitude.
I also didn’t need some big proposal. I’m also the type that just wants to elope just the two of us. ..I dunno I don’t like big pomp. To each thier own right.
I voted yes because I always knew that if I wanted something to just go for it. I proposed to my boyfriend and lo and behold, he had the ring! I pulled a Kate Hudson from Bride Wars and came right out and asked him if he would marry me and he looked at me, smiled and said, “Well, I was going to give this to you later…but since you can’t wait…” and pulled out the most gorgeous engagment ring from his hiding place! He would have proposed (eventually) but I’m still glad I beat him to the punch. LOL. We still announced our engagement formally with cards in the mail and phone calls to family and friends, had a big elaborate engagement party, engagement photos, and planned the wedding of our dreams. Everything was perfect…even if I did propose instead of him but we love telling that story to our friends and they all think it’s a hoot! The bottom line is I get to spend the rest of my life with my soul mate and that’s all that matters! 🙂
This is argument generally bodes for or against tradition…
Traditionally I would say that men are the most hesitant to settle down and get married (not all but a fair amount)
To me, it is VERY important that he is fully ready which is why I am willing to exercise my choice to wait until the moment he is perfectly ready. If I got to the point of waiting, where I was getting resentful etc I would leave. I believe if a man wants to marry you, he will. Nothing will hold him back come hell or high water…just my 2 cents
I vote no.. Of course I view myself and other women as equals, but I feel like at least for me, I want it to be how it’s always been, him proposing to me, him putting in that effort,
Also, I told him things I like, but I have no clue what kind of ring I will be getting it when he will propose
I am very non-traditional and short of being a feminist, so I am typically not all that impressed with what society says I must or must not do. In my personal situation – I was not all that interested in getting married and neither was SO, especially since doing so in the US comes with a hefty tax bill for us.
We are fully committed to each other and have been together for 10 years – long enough to see two of our friends marry AND divorce – ha. Anyway, we decided to get married for a variety of reasons, including doing it before my dear grandma passes, planning to start a family, etc. We were browsing through a jewelry store two years ago and saw a stone I loved, and we bought it. I was supposed to be designing the ring and he would propose when the ring was ready, but I never got around to it.
We started planning the wedding anyway, and the wedding is now 7 months away with most things paid for, and there is still no ring or proposal. I am currently talking to a jeweler to finally get a ring made. He still plans to propose. If it makes him happy – sure. To me, the proposal is just a formality and does not add or take away from our commitment or relationship.
Edited to add that I agree with PP about the general attitudes being more conservative and traditional in US.
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