(Closed) Why don't you propose to him?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I answered this before, and I’ll answer it again.

I told him I wouldn’t mind proposing and he shot me down. I honestly think he would be slightly offended if I did so, since he wants to be able to do it the “right” way. Not saying that a man proposing has to happen…he wants that to happen, though.

Post # 18
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Mostly because we’re both waiting. As silly as that might sound. Sure. We could get married legally, but that wouldn’t change TOO much about our life now, I feel.

We’re both just waiting until the time when we won’t have to worry about finances, housing, separation etc. We also both want to maximize our chances of a long happy marriage, and feel like waiting is definitely the right thing to do.

Though I did think of getting him a ‘promise’ type ring for christmas. But I don’t think he’d like that….

Post # 19
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Because he is 50 times more romantic then me haha.  Seriously, neither of us are traditional in the least bit, but we both like the idea of him asking.

Post # 20
195 posts
Blushing bee

He doesn’t want to be proposed to. I get to wear the dress he gets to propose

Post # 21
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

SO is traditional, so I’m letting him have his moment. 🙂


Post # 22
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

FH was traditional (usually he is not) because he wanted to propose to me, and give me a ring, and ask me to marry him. However, I proposed to him after he proposed to me, with his own ring that he’ll wear as his wedding band. He was thrilled about that! He just wanted to do it first, so I would know he was serious about the commitment.

Post # 23
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Least favorite wedding bee topic… Not sure why it keeps coming up. Here’s my cliff notes answer- Bc it’s not what I want, bc it is not what SO wants, bc SO wants to propose and plan something because he is a prideful man, bc it would emasculate him, etc. 

Post # 24
7225 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I just asked my husband.

He shrugged at me (While singing “This is Halloween!”) and said, “I would’ve said yes.”

The skeptic in me suspects some people are just coming up with excuses, but this is pretty standard for me.

I like reading about women who propose to their men. I wish it would become more popular.


Post # 25
1035 posts
Bumble bee

My SO is very traditional so he wants to be the one to ask.

Post # 26
2689 posts
Sugar bee

 I don’t want to ask him. Nothing more, nothing less.

Post # 27
875 posts
Busy bee

I actually don’t understand why this topic irks so many bees. It’s an honest question that the waiting board had me wondering at first, too.

Anyway, I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman proposing to a man. To echo most poster’s sentiments, though, it wouldn’t work in many relationships, especially the ones that tend to flock to wedding websites. For example, my DBF and I are both waiting, but I was the one to make most of the first moves in the very beginning. I was the one to admit I had feelings for him, I was the one who owned up to loving him first…pretty much the only thing he did was ask me to be his girlfriend. Due to this dynamic of ours, DBF said that the proposing would be in his court well before we were officially dating.

And he and I have a very untraditional relationship…since we are very young and I have access to slightly more money, I plan to give DBF a ring to propose to me with one day. Unlike most men with fiances on the bee, DBF is stoked, and not insulted by the idea.

Post # 28
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2023

I proposed to my man while watching tv and he said yes. Nothing wrong with doing it that way. And I dare anyone to tell me that our way of doing it was less special or meaningful than anyone elses.

Post # 29
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Because he told me already he would say no. According to him it’s the guy’s opportunity to shine by planning the proposal. It’s the one thing he has full control over when it comes to the process of getting married (the proposal, wedding day, etc.). And he wants to be able to surprise me and do this one thing for me. I can’t deny him of his moment and he wouldn’t let me either.

Post # 30
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I never asked my DH because I knew he is the type of guy who really wanted to be the proposer! If I had asked him, he would have been sad he couldn’t experience asking me.


Post # 31
564 posts
Busy bee

@Chaoslight:  haha, SO is a very traditional male and wouldn’t take kindly 2 me proposing. he’s also not big on very public gestures so if it comes, it’ll prob be in our condo, just us lol. then facebook, then the world lol

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