Post # 16
Some people hate the fact that they’re not engaged/married, and so they pretend at it. It sounds like that’s what this couple is doing, except the guy isn’t even pretending. He doesn’t want to be engaged/married, but the ring got his girl off his back for a while.
Post # 17
It’s their business, not yours. Move on.
Post # 18
- Wedding: July 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana
My ex husband has been engaged to his gf for like 5 years and they have 4 kids+ our 3. They both wear rings and pretend to be married. It works for them. I’m allowed to eyeroll but it’s none of my business. :-). People do weird things. They don’t sound like they are very connected in their vision of the future. But again just let it be.
Post # 19
Why do you need to understand what someone else is doing/planning in their relationship?
Post # 20
1) Your username is already associated with a regular bee, I would change it to avoid confusion if you plan to stick around.
2) It’s not your relationship nor is it any of your business. While I would not want an engagement like that, it may work for them.
3) Judging your “friends” choices so harshly isn’t a very attractive quality.
Post # 21
Since they live apart, she might have needed the commitment and promise for a future from him. An engagement is more about the promise than the wedding planning. Also, rings are a lot cheaper than buying houses, maybe they aren’t sure where they want to settle down just yet.
Post # 22
While the specific relationship you describe doesn’t sound very healthy and not on the same page, it’s not really your concern. You have every right to voice an opinion on it, but not to interfere with their relationship. Some people do get engaged to be engaged, and that’s fine. Whatever floats their boat.
Yes, I personally would not get engaged before closing long distance and am using my engagement as a time to plan a wedding, which is it’s traditional connotation, but that doesn’t mean this is the only right way for couples to work.
Post # 23
Engagement, marriage and everything in between isn’t always linear. Just because a couple doesn’t do just as everyone else does, does not make them any less engaged. Just let them be.
Post # 24
Maybe they know they want to get married and are still figuring the rest out….seems very logical to me.
Post # 25
Why do you even waste time thinking about this? Not your life, not your concern.
Post # 26
I think its perfectly normal to question what humans do – whether its the norm or whether its abnormal. i wouldn’t just say “not your life, who cares?” That’s true, but if we question human behavior, we may learn something. a lot of the time, we just follow the norm. Date, get engaged, get married, live together…have kids…etc. But at some point people started asking, “why do we have to get married to live together?” and now living together before marriage is a norm. This could be the same thing in 100 years. You dont’ have to live together to be engaged or married for that matter. Two humans can love each other and be commited but could be apart due to a whole host of reasons. Lets continue to evaluate each other’s choices so we can learn from them. Not in a judgemental way, but for personal growth.