(Closed) Why hasnt this photographer returned my email? was it too harsh??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1653 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsBtoBe14:  not harsh or offensive at all!  I would follow up just to make sure he got the email, it could have accidentally been deleted or sent to his spam folder!

Post # 4
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsBtoBe14:  That sounds fine to me.  I emailed a lot of photographers and other vendors just stating that I was interested in pricing and this was the date of my wedding and the location with X number of expected guests.  Only a few lines.  I don’t see anything wrong with it.

I’ve come to find out that not every vendor in the wedding business will respond or get back to you.  I had some caterers never even bother to send me a quote or price list after speaking with them.  I had a florist never send me a quote either (after meeting in person with her!). 

So it happens.  Just decide not to do business with these people and move on.  If they can’t answer and email or respond in an appropriate amount of time I wouldn’t want to hire them.

FWIW, I’d give him the benefit of the doubt if it’s only been 3-4 days.  Most people I emailed did respond within a day or two…but you never know what could have happened.  I’d probably send a follow up email by the end of this week.  Longer than a week and you still don’t hear back… I’d probably move on.  Unless he offered a valid reason.

Post # 5
2334 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t see how that could be harsh or offensive.  He probably just hasn’t gotten to it yet. If you don’t have a response soon, I would just cross him off the list.

Oh, and in future communications, leave off the part about graduating from college- its really not important and some vendors may treat like differently because you are young and still a student.

Post # 7
10452 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

What no!! How is that offensive! That’s a perfectly nice email. Some people are just incredibly slow at responding to emails. Which is fine, but if this guy is that swamped or slow maybe he’s not going to be great to work with? I’d keep waiting but shop around in the meantime. Give it a week. 

Post # 8
1845 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I found that not every vendor I emailed got back to me (I just chalked it up to they were booked already, and couldn’t be bothered to let me know). 

I would write a follow up email and if you don’t hear back, just remove them from your short list.

Post # 10
3686 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

“Do you think he didnt take me seriously because I’m young? I dont think that’s a good reason to not respond… but it may be true.”

@MrsBtoBe14:  I think there’s a good chance he’s not taking you seriously because you’re young.  He also may be assuming you’re broke.  

How long ago did you email him?  It could just be that he’s busy and doesn’t get around to answering his email very often.

Post # 11
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I found that you really need to call vendors to make the initial contact. I hate the phone, but it had to be done. Once I was a client of these vendors, they responded to my emails.

Post # 13
13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper

In general, vendors pretty much jump at opportunities for business, so I doubt he’s discriminating or purposefully not responding. I’d give him a couple more days, then maybe follow up by phone? You never know — he may have been out of the office or may just be swamped with emails. 

I’d also keep in the back of my mind that a vendor that is unresponsive or difficult to get a hold of may not be the best vendor to work with for your wedding.

Post # 14
2334 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@MrsBtoBe14:  You really don’t know why he hasn’t responded- maybe he thinks you’re young and broke or maybe he fell off a cliff and hasn’t returned any emails.  The possibilities are endless, so don’t stress about it.  Give it until Friday and then forget about him if there is no return email.

Post # 16
1848 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Nope, not harsh at all.

Lots of photographers are doing weddings over the weekend. I would give him until Friday honestly. They do a lot of editing during the week for the folks they’ve already shot.

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