(Closed) Why have a seating chart?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I like to have a seating chart by table (not each seat) when I attend a wedding because it ensures I get to sit with more people I know that just my husband. In a free-for-all, unless your group of friends is exactly the size of a table and you rush in to lay claim first, you could easily be separated.

As a bride, I wanted a seating chart to make sure we didn’t need a single extra table on that floor. Part of it was space and cost, but also, I don’t like the look of half-empty tables. I also got to make sure that people I knew wouldn’t get along (say, for religious or political reasons or because they already know each other and don’t like each other) wouldn’t end up being forced to be at the same table.

I was at a wedding recently without a seating chart, and seriously, it was a disaster from a guest point-of-view. We were trying to squeeze extra chairs in a very small tables so we could be near friends, some families got separated. It was not a good thing.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@nikkialys:  Exactly. I have a girlfriend flying out to the wedding solo, and she’ll only know one other person there. I’m making sure she sits with that friend. Two former coworkers and their SO’s will be seated together.

-Also- our chairs are a rental expense- so we’re only getting a few extra. I don’t want the scenario where your tables are unevenly filled.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

my fiance and i went to a wedding last summer where we didn’t know many people.  there were a few other friends from college that we knew, but that was it.  there was no assigned seating, and six of us ended up sitting at a table meant for twelve or so.  the table next to us had twenty people crowding around.  instead of sitting in the clearly empty seats at our table, they took them without asking and stuffed themselves all at one small table.  it was ridiculous.  we looked like the smelly kids in class that no one wanted to sit near.

at that moment i knew that we would be assigning tables.  people can figure out which seat to sit in, i hope. but the table numbers will be clearly posted 🙂

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Ronneykay:  I agree with all the reasons PPs listed, and that’s why we’re having assigned tables. It’s a courtesy to guests to minimize awkward situations, mainly in larger weddings. In response to your last comment, I don’t think the issue is when there are the right number of seats available at one table and you just have to ask someone to move over a seat so you and SO can sit together – the problem is when there is 1 seat available at each table and you and SO can’t find seats together at the same table. A seating chart eliminates that issue for guests. 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had one… and it worked out great!  We were able to keep people that hate eachother away from eachother and put people who liked eachother together.  I also had a family of 4 say that they wouldn’t stay for the reception unless seating was assigned since they’ve been split up at other weddings before and it was really awkward for one kid to be here and the parents to be there and the other kid way over elsewhere.   

Edit:  we assigned tables, not specific seats.  People can just figure it out at table level, lol

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, remember junior high?  That horrible feeling, when you’ve got your food…?  That’s what I imagine people feel when the wedding they go to doesn’t have a seating plan.  I plan to assign tables but not seats.  They can handle that themselves!

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