Post # 1
My first marriage was at the age of 22 and it was almost as big of a train wreck as my marriage was. (It lasted ten years). I did all of the planning with everyone else in mind. the dress. my hair and makeup. my shoes. the venue. all of it was to please others.
Now i’m am getting remarried at age 37 and this time around i have learned a thing or two. This wedding is for myself and my partner. We are doing things our way. Our favorite thing is taco tuesday. So we are having a taco bar & margarita bar. We are having a woman who is very shaman-like perform our ceremony including a handfast ceremony. I am looking to have a casual wedding that isn’t a big ball of stress like the last time. I think that perspective comes with maturity/time. I feel comfortable in my own skin. I am not doing any crazy crash diet. I found a beautiful flowy dress that suits my personality. I am much more able to stand up for myself and my partner is something doesn’t feel like it fits us. I am thankful to be a bride over 35. It feels authentic and great. Any other “older” brides out there? Do you find there is a benefit to getting married a little older?
Post # 3
@Bride_to_be_MelissaDavis: Hello! Congratulations! Your wedding sounds great!
I’m going to be married for the first time at 38 years old next May, and yep, we are planning it for ourselves. A small wedding with close family and friends who live in town. No sitting dinner, no gift registry, no bouquet, no flowers, no dancing, etc. Just a civil ceremony in a nice little place with a party in our condo after (with crockpots full of food and finger foods).
I am kind of happy that it turns out I’ll be married later in life. I know I would not be able to handle the pressure in the stress when I was younger 🙂
Here is to doing things at our own pace!
Post # 4
@Bride_to_be_MelissaDavis: “Young”er bride here at 25.. and all I have to say is “YOU GO, GIRL!” I’m trying to not do things just to please others, but I do think you’re right, the older we get, the more confidence we have to say, screw it! 🙂 Congrats!
Post # 5
Getting married for the first time at 37, and I definitely can relate. My co workers think I’m too calm about it, but I see it as knowing what is important to me.
Post # 6
I’m a younger 20 something bride here but I LOVE how you’re doing your wedding. That’s AWESOME and I wish I could be MORE LIKE YOU!!!!
Post # 7
Just commenting to say I would LOVE to attend a taco bar margarita wedding.
Post # 8
@Bride_to_be_MelissaDavis: a taco and margarita bar sounds awesome. I hate when people do what everyone else wants.. sounds like you have an awesome and meanigful day planned. 🙂
Post # 9
Your wedding sounds great!
I got married at 29 and my husband is in his late 30s. It’s the second marriage for both of us. I feel exactly like you do, it’s so much different this time around and we did everything our way and it turned out perfectly! No regrets 🙂
Post # 10
@Bride_to_be_MelissaDavis: yup, got married at 38 in a beautiful park by the river. Lunch was catered BBQ grilled on site and it was fantastic. We did have a Sunday formal event, but Saturday was for us and our friends.
Post # 11
@Bride_to_be_MelissaDavis: You said it! I am 44 and am getting married in 2 days to the love of my life. Every detail is reflective of us as a couple and we didn’t let anyone else influence our decisions. We’ve happily bucked a lot of traditions and can’t wait to dance to our Motown band! Your event sounds awesome…congrats and enjoy every minute!
Post # 12
@Bride_to_be_Mel I think this has more to do with this being your second marriage rather than age. I’m almost 36 and I wish I could say my wedding was all about me and my fiance!
Post # 12
A taco bar wedding sounds awesome!!!!
My brother got married last year (also in his 30’s) and insisted on having a party in the backyard with BBQ ribs and fried chicken for the dinner bit instead of a big formal affair, much to the horror of his new Mother-In-Law… It was by far the best wedding I’ve ever been to.
Post # 13
I will be 35/36 and my Boyfriend or Best Friend would be 33/34 when we get married. I am so happy I waited this long! I can finally say I have a brain! (LOL) And it works! We are eloping to a historical heritage site and I can’t wait!
Post # 14
We can do exactly what we want. We have a strict budget and won’t go over it because, let’s get real, the WIC has convinced us that paying the price of a small house or at least a down payment on one is okay for one day. We are doing a cocktail reception with lots of heavy hors deouvres because nobody we know wants another rubber chicken plated dinner where you are stuck in your seat all night. No first dance, no garter, no announcement of mr and mrs. We will have a slamming dance party though because we love to dance! I have to admit though that for a moment, Pinterest put a spell on me, but I’ve recovered.
Post # 15
Yep. Your day, your way. I Agree it comes with maturity, you lose that sense of obligation to please everyone. Particularly when you ‘re paying for it!
You’re probably more experienced/skilled at managing finances as well. All these boring littlle adult issues are what makes for a happy wedding.